I fell in love, hard! Totally spontaneous, totally hot! He asked my Dad for my hand in marriage, we started to look for a home, we've traveled, talked about starting a family and then 1 day when we woke up he wouldn't talk to me. I tried but after I embarassed myself by crying one night to him, I decided enough was enough
went home to Mom.....that was 15 years ago.
I saw him for the first time since then a week ago and he was all smiles, and hugged and kissed me like we were best friends.....and I was shocked. I was kind & polite, always a lady but I wanted totear his head off! I can't believe how bitter I still was....I thought I moved on! Does this mean I didn't? Is it OK to wish he would hurt like he hurt me 15 years earlier? How do I let it go, I mean is this typical? I really didn't know how deep this hurt ran! I am a very happily married woman but kind of caught off guard and not sure how to "check" what I am feeling? This IS NOT a pity party!
2006-08-19 22:12:00 · 4 answers · asked by MaHaa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is it normal, after all this time, to want some answers?
2006-08-19 22:22:11 · update #1
Sure it's normal to feel this way. From one day to the next he left and this was someone who you were planning on spending the rest of your life with. That really took some nerve for him to acknowledge you the way he did after all this time. If you run into him again, keep your distance and if he wants to engage in converstation, tell him you need to go now, your husband is waiting on you. Do not talk about the past with him, it's over and done with and you moved on with your life which is what you were suppose to do. He's not worth going back into the past with.
2006-08-19 22:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because you've moved on (and I believe you have) doesn't mean you don't harbor some anger and resentment towards this guy... after all, he hurt you a lot and you probably have some unresolved issues and questions about why.
Don't over-think it. He's a past chapter in your life and the reasons really don't matter any more.
2006-08-20 05:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never dealt with it, you probably avoided alot of your true feelings and the pain that came along with them. You better deal with it somehow or it will manifest itself again somehow and maybe even destroy a perfectly good relationship with someone who would never hurt you.
2006-08-20 05:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by runninfool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him forget it and move on.
2006-08-20 05:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by sher7us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋