it's like he living with me for free. i'm only 19 years old paying all the bills by myself, while he's at his mothers house doing nothing. but, he alway say o i want to work.
2006-08-19 22:09:55 · 34 answers · asked by kayla b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah, he's using you big time.
2006-08-19 22:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him!! i have a 20yr old son who lives at home, doesn't have a job, says he is looking, does a bit of dj work but basically is living the 'life of riley' and cannot understand why girls dump him. i am no longer enabling him. trouble is some guys just take a long time to grow up.
tell him if he wants to keep you as his girlfriend, he has to pay his way. stop enabling him. give him an ultimatum.
2006-08-19 22:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dazed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I had dumped my 1st who is still the best guy I ever met cos of his life situation, no significant progress for more than 3 years. I still like him but Life is not only about Love,
2006-08-19 22:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by PP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to work, he would be...and you know that. He lacks initiative and incentive. Standing up and being a man doesn't mean anything to him. I'm afraid that unless you want more of the same, you do need to let him go. He'll never amount to much and you certainly don't want a entire life of supporting someone who's working on perfecting being a bum.
2006-08-19 22:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes yes yes yes!!!! It will never change! My best friend just went through this. She was married to someone for 12 years. It was happening when they were dating and it happened after they were married. She worked and paid the bills...two jobs even...and while she had cancer...and he was busy running around with his buddies. She finally kicked him out and is now oh so happy.
It will never change!
2006-08-19 22:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lonesome Dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
issues like this take place whilst females get a boyfriend. My ultimate pal used to fall out with me for spending all my time with my boyfriend as quickly as we've been youthful, I understood she felt ignored yet on an identical time you only might desire to settle for that those issues do take place. in case you dont experience like shes a real pal then flow on and locate yet another pal, additionally tell her how dissatisfied u have been whilst she only left you that night ..in case you're solid sufficient associates you will make up. What are you going to do once you have a boyfriend, are you going to objective and cut up up the time you spend with him and her? likelihood is which you will spend maximum of a while with your boyfriend..it is existence and you only might desire to settle for it.
2016-12-14 08:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by sameeruddin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say dump him...I would say teach him a lesson (if that fails then dump him)
Tell him that your money is your money. The food you buy is not his. The furniture you paid for is yours. He can't use the water you pay for to shower. Completely deprive him of all of the services you pay for to give him an idea of what you really do for him.
2006-08-19 22:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, you have to find out the reasons forced him to be in unemployment, you should support him as mutch as you can, then if he love you he will response, but if he didn't, then kick him out of your life.
As an Arabic person & according to my religion, I believe that real man would not accept to let his wife pay anything, he HAVE to work and gain money, and pay every life's matters expenses, even if his wife was a wealth or a worker, he have to pay all expenses and not to ask her pay anything, but if she want share him its no problem, only if she welling to share him as an initiative from her side
2006-08-19 22:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by ........................ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a lazy so and so. just dump him, u need to find a man who will look after you and who can provide for u as well as love you. i think the sooner u dump him, the sooner u can find the right person and the sooner u can start te rest of ur lfe.
2006-08-19 22:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by rocky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO,DON'T DUMP HIM. Make him understand about the importance of earning your own money. Say to him how much you wish that he gives you some present from his hard-earned money. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-19 23:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by charming 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should dump your boyfriend
If he really cared he would go out and find a job
take 1 day off work and take him to the jobcenter or something
and also threaten him that you will dump him
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2006-08-19 23:01:18 · answer #11 · answered by HKJ_zizou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋