Do you believe that as head of the house your wishes should be carried out with out discussion or challenge?

Answer 1

I do not believe there should be a head of the house, if you are in a relationship it should be a joint decision.

Answer 2

In an ideal world nobody has "power over" anyone else. You want to relax and enjoy yourself but the world is full of demands that make this rather dificult. You want the power to get everyone off your back and to keep them off your back. You want the power to stop other people from even thinking about directing a demand at you. You want your demands to be complied with immediately and forever more, without question. So here is your hypocrasy. You are allowed to make as many demands as you like and compliance is mandatory. Other people are not allowed to make any demands of you under any circumstances. Everyone, except you, knows that you are being totally unreasonable (at some level you do know). And you just stand there coming up with more and more selfish rules and excuses.

"It is MY house and MY logic says that in MY house I can choose where I want MY boundaries to be and I don't have to consult anyone about where to place my boundaries and I don't want ANYONE challenging MY authority. I have a right to set the rules in MY house because I say so and because I am always right. And ANYONE who questions MY judgement is a FOOL, an IDIOT and an IMBECILE, which means that it is perfectly okay for ME to ignore THEM completely and do things MY way. And if ANYONE dares to challenge ME, then I will be very cross because I have another rule that says that challenges are not allowed under any circumstances. And if you disregard MY anger and if you persist in annoying ME, then I won't know what to do. And if YOU continue to challenge all of MY boundaries one by one, then I shall end up feeling small, powerless, helpless and inferior. But I don't want to feel like that so what should I do to avoid these unwanted feelings. I know, I'll start throwing my weight around. I'll start using physical force. And I'll use more and more physical force until I eventually get MY way. And who knows, if I am pushed far enough, I might even kill everybody and then kill MYSELF".

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Martin Camden.

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Answer 3

no, if the head of the house thinks this way it can only lead to the decline of the morale of the rest of the family and can even cause rebellion. People hate dictators, and love having a say in things, you want your family to be a cohesive unit and still have control you need to let go of your control here and there, let others in the family decide on things and last but not least listen to what the others have to say before deciding the best course of action.

Answer 4

depends on the task at hand.

sometimes there are matters that can be discussed..
sometimes there are issues that can be viewed as a challenge to undertake...
and sometimes there are situations wherein you just have to carry it out to get the result you want (with or without any discussion) to meet up a challenge satisfying your demand.

Answer 5

I believe that it's OK to have discussion as long as the kids know that ultimately, it's your decision. Challenge is not OK, though.

Answer 6

No I dont My bf is the head of the house but I tell him no alot and I make him take out the trash arnt I soooooooooooooooooo mean awww get over it he likes it when i take Charge its called Role Playing

Answer 7

Nope

Answer 8

i don't believe in heads of houses, but i'm gonna say discussion, for the little it'll, obviously, do.

Answer 9

If you decide something your children should abide by it, but your spouse can most definetly and should challenge you in private.

Answer 10

Fookin aye