this is a personal QUESTION...help :)??????

Question

see i'm a bit confused.....okay would you ever make a life changing decision for someone eles...someone you love someone close to you.....although you're not very sure about it OR would you want them to compromise..............

i would like to know what you all would do..:)

Nono see I MEAN would you make a life altering choice FOR YOURSELF for someone you LOVE!!!!....OR SHOULD they comprise for YOU….

Like I don’t know just an e.g if you’ve always wanted to go live in paris but this person wants to go to America and settle down there….should you go too or stand your ground??

:)

Answer 1

Sexychik has a great response and valid points... Ok. Here's what I would do-

I would first ascertain what was most important to me- Paris or this person- which one could I not do without- which one would be more necessary. I know this could be tough, but worth giving the decision it's due attention. Most decisions, however, I do believe ARE in fact reversible- especially in this case. Contingency plans will help you navigate through the comfort of knowing that if you were to make the wrong one, not all would be lost. And of course discussing this decision with the significant party is always my strong recommendation.

For instance- America and he may not work out- so I would have a detailed plan to get back in the event it does not work out. BUT- at least you would know for yourself. Not all would be lost because you would have seen and experienced predetermined roads to be traveled and memories for you to take back home with you.

On the other hand- Paris. Same contingency agendas- but you may never know what could've been... Would that be something you could do without not ever knowing?? I don't believe I could!

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

it depends on what you mean exactly. first of all it's not your place to make a decision in a friends stead since it's not your life and you are not the one to have to live with that decision. you can help that person by offering your opinion, give advice but never take decisions for him. would you make a life changing decision for someone, a decision you aren't even sure of? I think that is wrong. Now if the person we are talking about has a big problem like drugs or has some sort of illness or is incapable of deciding for himself for serious reasons, (I am not talking about the situation in which the person is simply undecided) you should advise him and seek help. This is the only situation I feel you can make a decision for that person but still talk to your friend before you do and tell him what you think and what you want to do. Never do something behind your friends back...that is not friendship. If you disagree with him say so, if you see another solution as fit say so..that is why it's called friendship after all.

Answer 3

It depends what's the matter & who the person's, but one must try out everything possible for someone they love & R closer to them, must do anything for sure. However, if U R not sure of something & in doubts, it's always better to compromise, to B flexible. Don't get confused while handling such an life changing decision for anyone who so ever they may B.

Answer 4

well, I think it depends. If you truly love the person, and they truly love you, it will work out. If this is the person you love, you will forever regret not making the decision to be with them. If that person cares enough about you, they will not allow you to make a decision that could affect you negatively. I mean, don't make a stupid decision, and make sure you are sure of the way you feel about the person before you do anything irreversible, but if you know that is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, do it, don't hesitate, and never, ever look back. Otherwise, you will regret it. Good luck! I hope it works out for you!

Answer 5

You're going to have to live with any decision you make. And when things get rough it will be the sacrifice you made that will rear it's ugly head. In your eyes your partner will always have a debt hanging over their heads and they may not think that they owe you anything because it was you that made your own decision.
This is a two-person decision, they need to put something of theirs in to the pot.

Answer 6

Maybe the differences in the persons lives are too great to overcome and they should move on...seperately. If this is not an option, there has to be compromise that BOTH can live with. If you're not sure about it, I would say don't do it. Follow your gut instinct.

Answer 7

ONLY if I was married to him!
For a boyfriend NO.
I had a boyfriend ask me to move across the country to be with him and I just couldn't. If things hadn't worked out I'd be alone without my family and friends on the other side of the country. Then what would I have done?

Answer 8

Its a give and take thing... If you really love each other, I believe that both should sacrifice a little and not leave the entire burden on one person. It would also benefit you in the future in case the one who sacrificed would feel like the smaller person or inferior to the other, or something like that.

Answer 9

see , u can change ur life for someone provided that person is really really close to you and u think ( or u have experienced ) that that person too is equally committed towards the relationship .

Besides , the situation at hand must be really demanding for u to take such a drastic step . If its not then simply avoid it !

Answer 10

One can help in getting the priorities organized, so that a decision may be made. However, it is for the concerned person to take the final decision, for he / she alone will have to bear the consequences of the decision!!!