My man never wants to have sex, and is selfish when doing it and even sais '' sex it for a mans pleasure, not for a woman to enjoy"- I don't know if he serious about that but from my experiences with him over the past 4 yrs it's true!
We have 2 kids so it's not that easy to say goodbye like that.
Well I'm begining to feel that I have the right to cheat if I want and just keep it to myself, atleast then I won't be so bored and get upset about him turning me down.
i'm not ugly or fat so that's not why he doesn't want me.
What do you think?
2006-08-19 21:37:23 · 17 answers · asked by lolitapearla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sadly the same things you want to protect your children from in the event of a split-up, you're also risking by cheating.
How about...for every time you feel like cheating, you remind him that he needs to be more giving in the bedroom. Sure, a lecture is not a great way to get "in the mood", so maybe you two should consider getting counselling. Either way though, it should be made absolutely clear that you are very disappointed and that it's not trivial. You have a right to explain what you want from him and you have a right to at least have your opinion respected.
Explain that his lack of caring in the bedroom leaves you with less interest in maintaining the relationship. He needs to know that while you think your kids come first, that his lack of caring DOES come with consequences.
2006-08-19 21:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Good Times, Happy Times... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh dear ..i can very well know how u feel coz im in a similar sort of situation myself . i know how frustrating it is when hub just doesnt care enuff in the bedroom and how insulting it feels when he turns down ur proposal for sex . one just wants to leave such a selfish man n go away ..but the love n concern for the family n kids holds a woman back from going her own way . I have been thru it ..n consequently i ended up having an affair ,though i never had a physiacl relationship with him . the affair made me very happy n i grumbled a whole lot less for my hub's behaviour after that ...but trust me ..it was like living on the edge of a sword . the risk of being caught ..of having a bad influence on my child ...of losing the family ..was far more than the pleasures it brought . so i tried making gud of what i had . i tried new things with my hub ...and literally seduced him until he was forced for sex ! i tell u ...u sumtimes have to "extract" it out of such guys ( juicing it out of him ..lol ) ...and believe me ..that was a whole lot of fun n much more satisfying . it seemed like a challenge ,,,n i took it ..n it worked ! so today ..im more happy "extracting" it out of my hub ..who was earlier not so interested in sex . although i cud still be more loved ..but then its ok...if u want the kids n fa,mily together ..one has to compromise sumwhere too ...but without any grudges for sure . So dear ,,,just try this out ..n see if it works for u . but if it doesnt ..then find a better man n move out . Best of luck to u for the 1st option sis . love .
2006-08-19 22:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by sonu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, cheating isn't right. I would wonder where he is getting it if not from you. Most men live for sex...maybe he is getting some on the side. Why would you want to be with someone who obviously cares so little about you? take your kids and go find a nice man who will love you and love being with you for something other than to create kids.
2006-08-19 21:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by j'sbabygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't believe that load of crap. I don't think cheating is the right thing for you to do because he sounds like if he ever found out which he probably will he would take you to the cleaners.You need to decide if you want to stay in this relationship or not. If your going to cheat you might as well be a single woman.
2006-08-19 21:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sucks that he takes this view with you. who the hell does this person think he is! I don't think 'cheating' is the answer.It never is, it just causes problems later on. Deceit sucks, and so does guilt and all that comes with it, don't do it, however tempting.
Tell him straight that you are not happy with the situation, suggest counselling with relate or something similar. See what he says. If he doesn't play ball then let him know that its really not on and you don't intend on living your life in that way for the rest of your natural and that you are going to consider a divorce.
Mean it too, you owe it to you.
Good luck
2006-08-20 00:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by robster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you would love yourself more and kick this guy out or at the very least sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling, it might be enough to wake him up and appreciate you more if he has the threat he might lose his family.
Please don't have an affair, you might really regret it later and kick yourself for it.
I wish you all the best
2006-08-19 22:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage includes sex and pleasure for both...he needs to know that. also if he is refusing sex it doesnt give you the right to cheat, get a divorce, not having sex is a problem..if you cheat he can hold that against you and you will look like the bad one...if all you seek is pleasure find ways to please urself i know its nothing like having an actual man touch you but ur showing respect to yourself and to your marriage , even if ur husband is a selfish prick.
2006-08-19 21:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by svu_telly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating will affect your whole family. Do you want your children to witness that fallout. If you don't want to leave that unsatisfying relationship (I would - it's not going to get better, only worse) then buy a nice vibe and take care of it yourself.
2006-08-19 21:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to cheat but not OK to get caught.
Avoid people in same city or town . go in for one night stands rather than emotional affairs.
2006-08-19 21:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by shady_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never a option divorce is.
2006-08-19 21:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by sher7us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋