When we were dating there was no date without one or more long kisses, and beginning of marriage too, now he says that he's not into that anymore and i feel like making love is not love anymore but just a physical act. there's nothing wrong w/my breath or anything like that...he said 'ah i'm just not a good kisser anymore'...lame excuse i think. i tried to talk about it but i only get lame sort of answers and i'm really not sure if this is normal for men to "grow out of passionate kissing" or what? Because I think the reason is he doesnt love me anymore or care...i kinda feel that's so true and its killing me inside. so bad but he doesn't care.
2006-08-19 21:07:08 · 11 answers · asked by Ultrabrite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that's terrible! How insensitive of him. Ask him what he means by that and what you can do to improve (the jerk). If that doesn't work, then I would ask him if he has found someone who kisses better than you. And if so, I would leave him and find someone who loves me for who I am.
2006-08-19 21:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 20:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by kalamaras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that there's more to the story. Kissing happens when there's some enthusiasm for intimacy. Two years is often about the time that a couple really has to learn to make a sex life, as oppose to just enjoying whatever happens.
My guess is that he's not really all that excited about your sex life in general. Maybe it's time to start having a few really frank discussions about what you would each like to see happen in bed.
The good news is that making a great sex life happen ends up being far more satisfying than just stumbling into it by chance. It's like the difference between finding a $100 bill, which is great, and having the ability to earn a $100 whenever you want, which brings many more rewards than just having the $100.
2006-08-19 21:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I think it's nothing to do with your kisses. I think it has something to do with a third person's kisses. I'm sorry but how could someone become a bad kisser? Either he never liked or felt any excitement for your kisses or he's found someone who's brought new excitement. A man in love is always "into that". Ask him if he's met someone else. Even if he brakes your heart by saying yes, at least it'll be healthier for you to hear the truth than to be feeling undesired by his side and being blamed for the loss of romance between you too. Good luck.
2006-08-19 21:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the relationship starts...it's like a need...like something that has to happen...one knows that's what the other expects. Then people get so comfortable with each other...they feel like a peck will do...I dont think it's fair for him to just shrug it off when you try to tell him about it though. It's obviously bothering you. I wouldn't say he doesn't love you...he's probably just comfortable with you and doesn't think that it's that big of a deal. I don't think it's abnormal for men to grow out of it. I would tell him since he doesn't like to include the kissing with the intimate connection, then you'll just have to pass on the sex because you can't have one without the other. He might grow out of that really quick.
2006-08-19 21:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lonesome Dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing is a part of loving period. If he has stopped kissing you , he does not love you . Please tell me , that this man has a job ?
If you are so sure , that you would like to change the way that things are . Try spicing up your love life , by doing it somewhere unexpected & slightly in public . Like on your front porch with the lights out , at night of course .
The truth is , that when we start to take what we have for granted , it all of a sudden starts to get boring ! The men usually take us for granted first , and stop doing things that really turn us on , & if we aren't really turned on .... It's not going to be that great for either of us !
If they only knew , that the longer they give us what we need to get really hot , the longer we will be really good , and lots of fun w/ them !
2006-08-19 21:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by listenup_yall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just grow so comfortable within a relationship.. they tend to forget these little things that can mean so much. Try to find ways to communicate your feelings with your husband.. find ways to vamp making love as well. Maybe start having a date night once a week or you can do a movie night @ home. There are ways .. I know you guys will get through this. Its just a stage .. sometimes just increasing communication, awareness of each other will increase the lack of kissing. To me, kissing is one of the ultimate act of intimacy.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-19 21:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if he is having problem at work or financial or .... ?? Guys usually will be disturbed by all these and will do less of those that you mentioned. Work harder to love him and have a listen ear to hear his thoughts and feelings. Don't nag at him if you do. Try to do something together of his interest even browsing the internet together. If possible go for a week tour to build up your relationship. It is from these patch that you may rekindle your relationship and then good kisses and intimacies will come naturally. Good luck
2006-08-20 00:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, and this is something that happens a lot. It seems that when the new wears off, things just become routine.
If you don't do something new in the bedroom to spice it up, he will probably just get bored and sex will stay like it is.
Men naturally like variety, which is why so many stray from home.
Good luck.
2006-08-19 21:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no your going about it wrong. get you a team jersey, any team and take a shower in something like the new dove soap..its blue. put the jersey on with out under clothes. do your hair and light makeup ..meaning line your eyes and a little lip gloss. make something he likes to eat or call it in. sit him down on the sofa and sit on top of him. get some Cherry's that you had soaking in cold champagne. put a cherry in your mouth, grab his face and push the cherry in with your tongue. then pull the stem out. bend backwards like you putting the stem on the floor or table, just long enough for him to see you have no undies on. then hand him the cherries and let him push it in your mouth. make sure you keep a sexy but shy eye contact. you will be in-control while his is thinking you are be submissive. and congrats on that hot lovemaking. but let it happen there, not in the bedroom so have some towels on the couch. lean over and moan in his ear and he is yours. bada bang bada boom!
2006-08-19 21:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by ~Gia~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋