When we were dating there was no date without one or more long kisses, and beginning of marriage too, now he says that he's not into that anymore and i feel like making love is not love anymore but just a physical act. there's nothing wrong w/my breath or anything like that...he said 'ah i'm just not a good kisser anymore'...lame excuse i think. i tried to talk about it but i only get lame sort of answers and i'm really not sure if this is normal for men to "grow out of passionate kissing" or what? Because I think the reason is he doesnt love me anymore or care...i kinda feel that's so true and its killing me inside. so bad but he doesn't care.
2006-08-19 21:02:38 · 13 answers · asked by Ultrabrite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't force him, if you badger him, you will lose him.
Just kiss him on his cheeks and tell him it is normal that he doesn't smooch with you and you still love him.
It will make him feel important.
2006-08-19 21:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children?
IF NO,
PLS DON'T
I am sorry for your pain, and the thing is you have come this far, and it must be humiliating and embarrsing to have him say those things to you.
If he has outgrown the love he had for you, then it was not strong enough in the first place,,
i personally would not want to live lwith and grow old with any husband who was not excited to have me in his life,
you are too young ,, and you deserve to be happy as a woman, and have the right to want to have your needs met
and be a woman of passion and all the great things you were designed, to do,
If your hubby says you are not a good kisser etc, first of all it is not the technique, it is the chemistry, and maybe he has someone else, it sounds like it, i hope i aml wrong,
but geez,,if he does not want you, or desire you,, then don't settle for that,,
you both need counseling ,i do hope you do what you can to ignite the passion from the past, and know that you deserve the best life possible, i hope it works out,for you ..
good luck
2006-08-19 21:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 20:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by kalamaras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it's obvious that you two don't have good communication and you can't settle this out like civil adults and discuss what's really going on with him right now: ie. stress at work, self image, having an affair, maybe discovering he's not into women after all; you should ignore him. Don't seek him out. Get into excellent shape, take care of yourself, sexy yourself up, buy naughty lingerie, and more importantly try and keep yourself busy. If he still doesn't respond to your change in attitude and appearance, oh well. If you're looking as hott as you should be by now, someone else is bound to look at you. If you're not the problem hun, you can't do anything about it as much as you'd like to. If there are more serious issues involved and he is willing, marital counseling could be an option but by the sound of it, I don't think that he'd be up to it. Just try and remember that if you did your best to try and save something, that's all you could do.
2006-08-19 21:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is that when two people get married they are with each other for so long that they tend to think that the other person should know how they feel without them having to say or do any thing to show it. Try to spice up things in the bedroom, maybe take over the leading role yourself. Have a weekend away just the two of you.
2006-08-19 21:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
my advice to you, try to understand what made him like that, change your way of act go for a journey alone in a boat there is some thing wrong with your husband you must know and fix it
remember every lock have a key
2006-08-19 21:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by imad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you should read what you just wrote on here to him. Let him know how you feel and try to talk about it with him without being confrontational. Just tell him that your feelings are hurt and you want to strengthen your relationship.
2006-08-19 21:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you talked to me about it already huh?...my man ann i have been together for 4 years we were kissy in the beginning now rarely only when romantic.it just happens you try to make the first move and see what happens.if it still occurs then talk to him one more time .
2006-08-19 21:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Amry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's getting bored in the bedroom. Try to spice it up make him want you badly.
2006-08-19 21:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why he can't just kiss you anyway. What is the big deal. Married people *shakes head*
2006-08-19 21:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋