My sister refused a shower whenever I was going to have it for her. I had bought everything and she said that she was not going to show up and "she don't want it". What do you think? I think that it is awesome and helpful because it is her first baby and my first neice. If she preferred other things then the ones given then she don't have to use them for the baby.
2006-08-19 20:41:48 · 17 answers · asked by itsme 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Wow, how arrogant!! That is just so rude of her! That would really hurt my feelings had that happened to me. She must be embarressed or really haughty or snobbish or something to not accept that loving guesture of help. That's the only reason I can think of.
I LOVE having baby showers. I used to hate them until I had my very own. I even believe in having one if it's a girl and then one if it's a boy. (showers for the first time you have either sex). I hope that makes sense. I have two girls, so I didn't have a shower for my second girl, but if I were to have a boy next then I'd want a shower for him cuz I'd have to buy all new things.
Anyway, don't worry about it. Most people want to have showers and are appreciative of them. It's just your sister's problem. Don't show her how disappointed you are, just save the stuff and have a shower for another friend or relative who might be expecting in the future.
2006-08-19 23:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister doesn't want a baby shower, then don't give her one. But really, it ahould have been a surprise. Usually women don't have showers for the second born. Anyway, what were her reasons for not having a shower? I had a shower given after I had my baby. She was just a couple of weeks old. It was great because everyone got to see and hold her, I got alot of girl stuff, and it was more about her than me. So, bring that idea up to your sister. See how she feels about that. I don't think a shower has to be totally about getting gifts. Especially if she already has everything. It can also be about just celebrating the upcoming birth of the baby.
2006-08-19 20:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by cheerstoyou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister what she wants...maybe she doesn't want a big fuss, But she would like a get together of just close friends and family. Ask for her input but in the end if she doesn't want a shower she doesn't have one. Have you asked her why she doesn't? Without making it about you ask her if something is troubling her. I remember I never felt my first born was on his way until the shower, then suddenly I was very overwhelmed. Maybe the idea of being a parent is suddenly real to her and she is scared. Try being supportive instead of being annoyed that you bought the decorations already. Pregnancy is a great time but a scary time too.
2006-08-20 02:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i didnt want one but the last month they though me and sprize one. we had so much fun just talking with family members i had seen in forever. i am 23 had my first at 19 they had me and diaper shower it was so nice i had diaper for the first 6 months and wips for and long time. maybe tell her your keep it simple or do what my family did.it wasn't much to my shower some refash ments and cake nothing to out there. i think you should though the daiper shower her way and see what she says.tell her she well need daipers and that we be less expence on her. if you do it sprize write on the invaite that it an sprize and she know nothing about it. also you can put if you have the diaper shower this is and daiper shower.sizes 1 - 5 plz get them all from walmart so it easy to take back if she get more of one size or other. play some games and have and good time what its all about.
2006-08-19 22:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sort of see how she feels...I hate being the center of attention, and when I had my first baby, I really dreaded having a baby shower. BUT, then I thought - a couple of hours for all that free stuff??? I'm in!!!!! It's definitely worth it :o)
I would just explain to her that the shower is really only to help her out and that it's just a few hours. It's not that big of a deal!
2006-08-20 09:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by saxgirl12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually never know people would turn down a baby shower....I mean for pete sakes it's free stuff :) Plus you get to spend time with all your friends and family I get not wanting to throw yourself a shower but if people are offering why not take it... I'm actually pregnant with my second baby "it's a girl" and I am having another baby shower with this one my friend said she believes every child she get a chance to be spoiled.
2006-08-19 22:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by rochelle s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt really funny about having a shower. It felt like I was "asking for gifts". KWIM?
However, my family and friends insisted on one! After almost ten years of trying, they thought we deserved one. I, on the other hand, thought I was already being blessed beyond measure just to have a baby.
2006-08-20 03:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mustang Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell all her friends and family she doesn't want a baby shower and if they could just get a gift for the baby and give it to you to give to her.
2006-08-19 22:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Maddie's Mommy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, baby showers are fun!
2006-08-19 21:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by ho R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
of course. It is fun and a great way for family to contribute to the baby's long list of must haves. :~ )
2006-08-20 01:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by sunneybear1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋