Is it justified for a married man to abandon a child from an affair to save his marriage?

Answer 1

no, but unfortunately you as the woman in this situation made a very selfish choice that will affect the future of several people. and not to lay all blame in your lap, if he were privy to the truth then he should not have been having unprotected sex with you. if he knew you were capable of reproducing - he should have made a wiser choice in his affairs policy.

and yes i do speak from experience - i do not live in a glass house.

Answer 2

When the man or the woman has had an affair it's because something is missing in their relationship. They often don't seek this out, it can just happen. And like it or not, both parties are responsible for this. Whether it's lack of communication, neglect etc. I do know that a person can lose their way and find themselves in an affair and that it can help them appreciate what they had with their spouse - or to really understand what's missing so they can work towards having their needs fulfilled within the marriage. So yes, it is possible that an affair can help save the marriage. It does take forgiveness - if the other spouse finds out. If the spouse does not find out, then the one who has gone outside the marriage begins to put their energy back into what they have chosen, finally. Their marriage.

Answer 3

i kept passing by your question, but i simply can't ignore it. it is never justified to abandon your child...ever! it is never the child's fault whatever it is that the parents did wrong...how can you make a mistake right by doing another mistake? obviously your wife already knows you had an affair...does she know about the child? a woman's point of view regarding children is way different than a man's view. i'll remove my hat off for you for wanting to save your marriage...& i'm sure that you have already realized your mistake & i do hope that you won't do it again. i'm not sure if your conscience can take it, but i know i certainly can't.

if ever my husband had an affair, & it bore a child, but still want to save our marriage, i won't ask him to abandon the child. i'll let him give child support & maybe let him see the child once in a while. i'm sure if your wife took you back, it means she has a heart. hopefully she feels the same way a lot of women feel about children, especially if she's a mother!

take up to the responsibility of your actions. if you're a man, be a man, if you have a child, be a father! good luck!

Answer 4

Can't abandon an innocent child for any reason. CAN, however, do everything short of that to save the marriage. Take the wife with you whenever you go to see the kid, etc. You have no choice but to be a father to the child because you ARE the father. Make sure you ARE the father, by the way. You are, right?

Answer 5

Yes, if he actually tries to save the marriage and isn't just using it as an excuse to ditch the kid. By abandon, I hope you mean he pays child support, but has no contact. The woman in the affair knows he's married, and yet chose to keep having sex anyways. Its sad that the child must suffer, but that is reality. Did you really think the guy would dump his life and come play family with you?

Answer 6

First of all why did she make love to a married man. It does take 2, so its not intirely his fault. But no! He should acknowledge the baby, if he had a conscience. It's not fair to babies that aren't planned to be born into a relationship that is not grounded, especielly knowing that it wouldn't work because he is not divorced, and its not fair that the baby is a way to make a family when he already has one or was it to keep him. Entrapment is never an answer to keep someone for our selves. Its not fair, its just not fair. Well nobody's perfect I guess, which is a shame.

Answer 7

no
a child should not be abandon, nomatter what,

How can a marriage be saved, when a small childs life is destroyed,
if this person would throw away his child, like a q-tip
because it is not convienent,

then the marriage he wants to save, is not worth saving,
and how could any wife respect a man who would throw away his child, like a used comdom (THAT HE SHOULD HAVE USED IN THE FIRST PLACE)

Answer 8

There is no justification for abandoning a child that did not ask to be born. We don't need another single mother not being supported in this country. Take responsibility for your actions and maybe...be a man.....a dad would be better !!!!.

Answer 9

no it is not justified to abandon your child,if you have a good marriage and communicate with your spouse well then even if she is hurt she will come around,honesty is all ways the best policy Even if you did cheat and only if this is a one time thing,but if your one to cheat over and over let your wife go so she can get a new life with someone who will treat her right.

Answer 10

It wont be if you manage to reverse time and chop off your balls before you become uncontrollable with lust as start forcing yourself on women. And what are you saying 'save' for? You can never justify anything if you got yourself into something like that! Your dead man! I cant imagine how your kids will despise when they grow up.