my husband and his sister is too close that she is taking advantage of the situation and playing too much dram

Question

i am a married woman of 26 yrs and i have being married for past six months. my problem is that my sister in law illtrated me a lot and treated me like a servan though she is younger to me while i was living with them and i was very much worried during my early married days because my my husband and his sister is very close to each other and they often pass comments on meand they talk over any topics even sex and they are quite open up each other i am from an orthodox family so i feel quite bad on this. when ever i cook on kichen they will keep on enjoy thenselves and thse all cause me great worry now me and my husband are living abroad nw also my sister in law call over phone and she is only interested in talking to her brother and i am feeling depressed over this what i should do? and my sister in law even illtreated my parents but my husband is saying that i should adnjust my husband is too caring and lovable so i feel bad to hurt him

Answer 1

well if he isnt listening to you and if he doesnt how you feel you need to tell him if they are treating you like this now how do you think it will be ten years from now or 30 years from now marriage is forever and forever is a long time so many people jump into marriage FOREVER IS FOREVER and you are only at 6 months good luck

Answer 2

No. you are wrong in your thinking.
You should know "Offense is the best defence"
You are not defending yourself in the first place.
Patience and silence will never help you always.
Your silence in this situation is your enemy.
You are not using your right as a human being and not using your authority.
Nobody has right to hurt you including your husband.
Nobody tells not to defend your self in the absence of your husband.
When he is available, tell him everything without hide and seek.
Your have to live your life.
Put that word orthodox word aside. What do you mean by orthodox. There is a limit for everything.
Now, start defending your self by showing your authority or ask your husband to search for another house, where you can live separately and happily from those insensible people.
Philosophy will never come to your rescue.

Answer 3

Ask the sister the next time she is in town to spend the day with you. Try to get to know her better and ask her all the questions you want. Just the two of you on a whole day out. Let her know how you feel with out being mean. If she starts to get defensive then you can let loose on her, lol. Make sure you tell your husband what you plan on doing before hand.

Answer 4

I had a problem like that to once. She would call my husband at 2:00 IN THE MORNING, just to cry that no one liked her. Lord knows why? So I called her at 2:00 in the morning and told her she needed to stop calling him like that, because he had to get up at 6:00 to go to work. What a B#*ch. All she said was she came before me because she was his sister. And I let her have it big time, she had her own husband that she need to turn to not mine, never spoke again and she never called him like that again either. You need to nip it in the bud now and he needs to understand your not trying to push her out of his life but she needs to understand your his wife and she now takes a backseat. He needs to support you on this. It's great that they are close but not to the point that she makes you feel like your an intruder into the family.

Answer 5

Tell yr husband the whole truth,whatever irks U & what hurts U.If he really care he'd do changes & amend whatever wrongdoing been going on & will not let U suffer.Love comes with trust & respect if not then U'd be suffering whilst others get to enjoys it.

Answer 6

treat your husband sister like your best friend and change your way of thinking by joining with them, have fun with them, dont you wish you have a brother or a sister like them who are closed.

Answer 7

Your husband telling you to adjust to being ill-treated? He needs slapped out of his shoes.

Answer 8

kill the b***h