I didn't have many friends, and I was a shy, quiet kid. I guess i didn't have enough social skills. Many kids kinda snubbed me. They must have found me kinda boring. And many of them thought I wasn't smart enough to go to the university I got acceptance to. However, can I be different in college? I wanna be more confident, outspoken, sociable, and academically successful in college. The last 4 years of my life were pain in the butt, but I want the rest of my life to be so much happier. I need some guidance. Thank you.
2006-08-19 20:24:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Just put yourself out there and be yourself. Get involved in activities that you're interested in. Participate in class discussions. Now that you're in college, you're surrounded by many people at your intellectual level. That's why you don't see too many of the cliques that you see in high school. 18 people from my high school are going to my college now. A few of them were considered "losers" in high school. I look at them now and since they've been so outgoing and have been getting involved, they've made so many friends. Just think positive and get out there! Good luck!
2006-08-19 20:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't classify yourself as a loser because sometimes friends and people can be more trouble than what they are worth. I was the same way when I was in HS. I got to the point to where I didn't care about anyone else around me. Your best bet is to get involved into clubs or somethings that you are interested in while you are at college. Talk to people and ask questions and get to know some people. Sometimes all you have to do is say hi or ask how you are doing. A simple question like this can spring about a big conversation. I am sure that there are going to be other people at college with the same situation that you are in. If you want the confidence for a happier life you have to look as yourself differently then what you did before and raise your selfworth and know that you can achieve in life. There is always room for improvement and changes in life. Grab your bookbag and pick your head up and walk into the college ready to graduate with honors and say hi to someone and start a conversation with someone. Remember that people in college start to grow up after they leave HS and they aren't so arrogant. A few still can be, but most grow up and mature. Don't let fear ruin your college years and hold you back from having fun and stepping out of your shy, quiet side!
2006-08-19 20:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by busyliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be different. Highschool and College are two different things. Highschool and the real world are two very different things.
Approach college with self-confidence... real or fake... If you have to put up a front at first. Everyone else is just as nervous as you are. And even if you have to act calm, collected, and confident for the first little bit... you're only one in thousands that are doing that.
We all have the ability to change. Don't let bad memories from highschool hold you back from your full potential. Go into this situation giving it your all. Work hard, get involved, and it will all pay off.
2006-08-20 08:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Allie5277 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible. I was pretty quiet in high school but most people knew me. I didn't hang with the popular kids but I knew most of them. When I got to college I just assumed it would be the same thing. But you end up meeting people from all walks of life. The great thing about college wherever you go is that you can start over. You can join clubs and do things that you would have never thought you would do. One thing I did realize is that living on campus you make a lot of friends. I didn't live on campus but I had friends who did. And the other thing I noticed was that once you figure out your major you will end up taking classes with mostly the same people for oh 2 years. And in my case I ended meeting a lot of new people. Plus there is always study groups.
My best advice for you, is to try something you never tried before. My friend that I met the first day college, was very anti social in high school and didn't get along with a lot of people. But she said hi to me and I asked if I wanted to hang out and we have been friends ever since and that was 2001. So just talk to people, take classes you wouldn't think of taking, look around the college for events that are going, and again even if you talk to just one person at least you have one person who will be your partner crime!!! It's never easy to come out of your shell but once you do it's great. It won't be easy and I'm not saying do something so totally not like you, that you hate it. But just enjoy yourself. This is the time in your life when you truly find out who you are and who you want to be.
I wish you the best of luck!!!
2006-08-19 20:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by TaffySam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely! i was so shy during HS but then i dont know why suddenly in college i became so energetic and start scoring many As (but never in philo, language or soc) and just start making tonnes of friends that in second year i won the Miss Popular title! (pretty childish considering it was college but hey ppl voted!) and life became pretty good. just turn a new leaf and believe that u can do it, ok sweetie :) Life in college is really better for most people..
2006-08-19 22:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by aishah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to be a person who is more sociable....
Then you start joining some other activites that will make you a more gregarious.
The interesting part about life is that, you can always be a better person. You are what you want to be.....you just got to keep trying!
The past is past.....don't live in it. Build your future.
2006-08-19 20:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by akanekaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way in HS, but college is sooo different. There are all different kinds of groups there and trust me, you will fit in great. College is the time when you establish life long friends.
2006-08-20 04:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jude Bounds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though it sounds like a load of crap sometimes, a lot of people beleive that the self image you carrry around inside shines through, and people will only like you if you like yourself.
The real trick to it is, not letting the years of high school program you into thinking you are a loser. If you continue to think you are, you will be.
2006-08-19 20:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by d h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes u can be different. Some people are just now "blooming" in college. Join some clubs, ask some people to come over and hang out with you or go out to eat. I know of people who were not well known in high school but in college became leaders, and of cheerleaders who were "it" in high school but in college dedicated themselves to study only.
2006-08-19 20:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah! i used to be like that in high school, but now i'm confident, outspoken, hot and my grades are still just as good as the ones i had in high school. know what you are worth and dont let nobody treat you any less. today i look at all the girls that were popular and pretty in high school and i could and truth is they aint got sh*t on me. just always remember what you are worth, always...
2006-08-20 00:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by firefly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋