there are several things you could do. but all of them require caring. the more you care, the less chance you have at actually having friends. you'll get your own. also, whether they really despise you or not, you don't need to actually care about it.
2006-08-19 19:49:11
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answered by Jim 7
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No one can despise you if they don't even know you yet. I saw this happen when I was in college and people transferred to my school sophomore year and everyone already had their "cliques". However, you only missed out on a week and that's nothing. I know that most of the time, the people you first met and befriend when you move to a new place are not always the people that you end up really being friends with. You say that they have already formed friendships when realistically they are just clinging to one another so they won't be alone. Just be yourself, be happy and open, don't by any means wallow in self-pity and doubt that you won't become friends with people. Strike up a conversation with someone that looks appealing to you, you could even make up an opening conversation starter like, hey ... can I borrow your notes from the first week since I missed out. You can also be so bold as to be honest with someone that you first talk to like, hey ... so what's the low down on everyone from teachers to people to whatever. Also, since you have friends outside of class you can always invite someone out with you because chances are everyone wants to meet new people and you might be one of the few who actually knows people on the "outside" which is very appealing. Hang in there, I know it's hard to connect with people when you don't have a wing man/woman or a buddy to fall back on. Don't be superficial because people read right through that. Be yourself and embrace this new adventure. As uncomfortable as it might be, it's always fun to have change and have the chance to reinvent yourself. Ever not like the way people saw you or what not, be someone different. Don't lie or act fake but flaunt the best aspects of yourself and how you want to be perceived.
2006-08-20 03:01:03
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answered by caroline 2
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Okay, your situation sucks and is definitely hard to deal with. I"m sorry you're going through this.
Try smiling at whoever you sit next to, and strike up a conversation. If you enjoy something, you can bring it up - especially if you know they enjoy it too - and if they're good at something, ask about it. People often like to talk about themselves, and are more comfortable with it.
Be yourself. Being the new kid is hard - you can also ask them what kind of stuff they recommend for after school, etc. Invite one to do something sometime...if you're good in a subject and they need help, offer it. If they're good, and you need help, ask for it. Try to study together before a big test.
Definitely be yourself above all else. Sometimes it's hard for formed friendships to make room for others, but if you're open, and not trying too hard or being fake, you should find your niche in the class soon enough.
Oh, and if you know it's someone's birthday, wish them a happy one - it's always nice to know that someone noticed it's your day.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
2006-08-20 02:50:12
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answered by tydlywnks 2
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I'd say just be really friendly and talk to people (I have huge issues being really comfortable around people I don't know maybe you're the same way but it's okay it's worth a try) just try to start up conversations with some people that's what always works for me, eventually you'll find someone who's nice and you have alot in common with and =) High school is just hard period. Good luck!
2006-08-20 02:48:53
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answered by Abtsolutely 3
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don't act deperate for one, the more desperate you act the more distance people tend to become. act like you already have freinds and when caught in a akward situation, always keep a book handy or something to write in to make you look busy or something. I do not mean to have your head in the book or writing all the time...this can send bad vibes that you do not want to be bothered if done at extended amount of times. Whenever someone looks at you smile and when they talk to you be polite. Also won't hurt to arrive a few minutes before the bell rings to classes so you can join in the before class discussions and also allow those who choose to come and talk with you before class starts.
2006-08-20 02:51:12
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answered by sadealz 3
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The more you let these people bother you the more they are winning. Just be yourself. I've lived in Australia and know how hard it is to make friends. I was a yank living in the Ozzy world. let me tell you it was very difficult ...but I just made it a plan not to let them bother me. Eventually I formed very meaningful relationships with the Ozzies.
2006-08-24 06:30:37
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answered by aunt_beeaa 5
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Well try to be popular like you having the highest score in a test and always say Good moring to someone whom youd like to be your friend and Im telling that they will be the first one to say HI to you trust me and youll win friendship
2006-08-20 02:49:08
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answered by Anonymous
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not everyone does, there are those who dont but do so due to peer pressure. just be urself and dont care about them, they will soon come to accept u. meanwhile u can just try to cherish the moments spent with ur friends from outside of class.
2006-08-20 02:48:14
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answered by rulewell 3
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if they're being like that then your friends friends means to me that they have u your back from any problem well those people aren't your friends you have to chose ur friends wisely i had a hard time making friends too cuz i have trust issue and people hate me for who i was. oh yeah if they ask u to take drugs just hell naw i ain't rollin with that drugs make u dumb and hard time to find a job so don't smoke crack or ice aka meth
2006-08-20 02:51:35
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answered by STEALTH NINJA 2
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Be patient let them get to know you be yourself when they talk to you but it takes time if your too pushy they will balk high school is tough get involved with some after school clubs if you can
2006-08-20 02:49:47
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answered by Fawn 1
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