I always Had a crush on this guy at my highschool. I'm a guy myself, and I had a major crush on him.I thought he was gay because of the way he use to do around me and the way he use to hang out with me. I was not going to tell him that I was gay. All tthis time I thought he like me, but he broked my heart so Creul. I just wished to drop dead when I seen him in the hallway kissing this girl.The next day he came and ate lunch with me, but I got up and moved away from him. Everttime he tries to talk to me I treat him meanly wishing to kill the girl he was kissing because I want him and thought I had him
2006-08-19 19:38:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OMG highschool drama.. attention attention attention! just relax you'll get over it, you dont own him.
maybe he isnt gay, just realize everyone isnt gay and find someone that is gay. gay gay gay.. ok?
2006-08-19 19:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all, get a hold of yourself. Second of all, this guy may not be gay, but he DOES seem to want to be your friend. Why would you turn him down? Because you can't HAVE him? That is immature jealousy. I'm sure this girl has NO idea why you hate her so much, as well. You can't always get everything you want in this world - anyway you are still only in high school and not even out of the closet! The only things these people are guilty of is not being a mindreader. Give them a chance, and give yourself a chance. Once high school is over you'll have plenty of chances to be 'out' as yourself. Concentrate on school and keep your eyes on the future - that is what's important right now.
2006-08-19 19:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lori 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know, it really is OK for a straight guy to have a relationship with a gay guy without sleeping with him. Your friend may care about you greatly, and love you - but be straight. No matter what signals you got from him, let him explore his sexuality now, because now is the safest time for him to do it. If he is gay, loves you, and wants to be with you, he will make that known soon enough. In the meantime, find an honorable way to interact with him that supports the friendship you have - or are you uninterested in him if he can't have sex with you? I hope that is not the case and that you are deeper than that.
2006-08-21 17:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, nobody is worth killing yourself over!
Second, he's straight. He probably thinks you are too and that y'all are guy friends. Not gay guy friends. Guys tend to hang out together and they can't all be gay. I'm female and am digging a guy and can't tell if he likes me either! Just wait! You are only in high school and 20 years from now, you won't even remember the names of these two people. If you kill yourself...it's you who will be forgotten. Don't waste your time obsessing on such issues. My advice to you is what they told me. I'm a fat girl and "nobody" dates a fat girl. They told me~ Be the best ME that I can be and whoever I do end up with just has a better version of me to date! When you find "Mr. Right" as they say, be special enough for his mom to be happy to call you her "son-in-law"!
2006-08-19 19:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does like you, he's just afraid of the image. There are plenty of people like that. Many Bisexual people like the same sex, they just don't want the label, or the public knowing that that is what they like. Afterall, that's how most homosexuals used to be before this whole "I'm here, I'm Queer" movement began. All you can do is be honest and if he doesn't like you move on. Believe me you'll find someone who'll fit the bill far better than he did. Plus it's high school, everyone always feels like dying at least once. Just keep your head up and focus on your studies so you can go to college and really find hot guys to die for. About life: if it's meant to be, it will be. Good luck. oh, and if you really liked him, you wouldn't treat him like that.
2006-08-19 19:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzybinature 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't give up, it is so hard being gay and also you are so young, it will get better once you are out of school, and it may seem like forever but before you know it it will be over...my brother was gay and he turned to drugs and alcohol to help deal with these hard issues...the drugs n booze killed him at the age of 37...please try to go to a councelor, they can be very helpful and underdstanding (try a few out till u find 1 u click with) i loved my brother so much it didn't matter to me ever that he was gay, but it broke my heart to see all the crap he had to deal with day to day...it is not an eeasy life, please seek support and look for gay support groups on the web..where do u live may i ask? (general area)
2006-08-19 19:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by lazy_n_spoiled 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please don't commit suicide. Please. It's a waste of a life. You could go on to do good things...
Second, please don't take out your feelings on him nor the girl he was kissing. It's not her fault or his. You're having to deal w/some strong emotions.
Third, please go talk to a counselor. Soon. Tomorrow if possible. This week. Call a crisis line. There are free and confidential resources out there.
Fourth... Please ignore the cruel, thoughtless, evil people encouraging you to kill or harm yourself or someone else. Ignore the people who'd rather see you dead than admit that there are people outside the 'norm' for attraction. They have small minds (at best) if they can't let you live your life... particularly if you haven't harmed anyone else.
Fifth... you're young. This too shall pass. You have your whole life ahead of you, and you probably will find some great person (guy or girl; whatever) to be with.
Peace.
2006-08-19 19:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberley Mc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont commit suicide because of some guy. It is so not worth it. I know things can be really overwhelming and upsetting when you are heart broken and it can really seem like things will never get any better. You probably think you will hurt like this forever. We have all been there. Trust me as hard as this is right now and as much pain as u are feeling right now - pls know that u will heal and u will move on from this. Just be his friend - he probably has no clue why u are mad at him. Friends are awesome to have and someday i am sure u will meet someone u think is awesome who thinks u are just as awesome. Be strong!!
2006-08-19 19:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself some counseling. Almost everyone goes thru a similar situation at some point in life. Even if he was gay, there's no guarantee that he'd want you in that way. On the other hand, you never know, maybe he's bi or maybe he is just using the girl to get you jealous. The only way to know is to ask him. If you don't want to ask, just learn to live with uncertainty.
2006-08-19 19:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Kuji 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could be bi-sexual or he could jsut be gay and still figuring out what he wants. How about you actually talk to him and find out whats really going on. It could just be that he is straight and likes having you for a friend. but remember there are always other fish in the sea. While you are worrying about him someone else may be crushing on you.
2006-08-19 19:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Simmy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school, I got my first (and only) girlfriend. She dumped me for a guy. Now I look back and realize that she wasn't all that.
Forget dude. He's immature and obviously confused. You are too good for that. People who know what they want don't do well with people who don't even know themselves. You'll look back and laugh. Or cry. Or both. But won't regret the fact that the Universe likes you just the way you are. :P
2006-08-19 19:44:18 · answer #11 · answered by Lenore 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋