i have been married for 10 years now but am still haveing issues letting go of an ex the ex says he is still in love with me and will wait as long as it takes and i believe that i love them both and i was wondering if there are any other women out there that feel the same way and do you all have any advice for me
what should i do?
what do i say to them both?
totaly confused please help!
2006-08-19 19:30:57 · 16 answers · asked by just_a_fat_chick_9669 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
someone asks a serious question and most of the answers are demoralising. why bother answering at all. oops i forgot about the 2pts you all want so badly.
onto the question... you might think you love both the same way but i dont feel you can. you can love them both but in different ways.
its not fair on your present hubby and i think you need to discuss this with him and seek some marriage counselling to help you both work through this.
sometimes you dont know what you have lost until its gone, this could be happening to you now or it could be that you like the attention your ex is giving you now and wish he would of done that when you were married to him.
i wish you luck in sorting this out but remember you need to be fair to both men and you cant keep them both on strings waiting for when you decide who you should be with.
2006-08-19 19:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your happily married now,then you wouldn't be having thoughts of the Ex! get rid of those thoughts.Besides the Ex is an Ex for a reason.I don't think you can realistically have two slices of the pie and eat them at the same time.You must choose the bigger of the two slices.Unless of course you and they are into swinging,then you could have as many slices as you would like.
2006-08-19 19:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by reptimann 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh I love when people try to maintain that you CAN'T. You parents out there are capable of loving more than one child, right? Why do you act like it's an impossibility to love more than one adult. People have been practicing polyamory for MUCH MUCH MUCH longer than we have been attempting monogamy.
And if you can't tell, monogamy isn't exactly working for the majority of people who are attempting it. Don't you think it's time to at least *consider* some new options? Lets let LOVE EVOLVE people!
2006-08-19 19:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by communion6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...there is more than one person for everybody in this world and maybe you've found both of them. I mean, I was in a situation close to yours but it wasn't marriage...I was dating two guys and I loved them both. It's not impossible...but this is what did...I kept talking to both of them until one of them showed me something that I didn't like or want. He proved to me without saying anything which boy I should pick and he helped make my decsion so much easier. But if he's your ex than that must mean something went wrong the first time...you should really check into him..
2006-08-19 19:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a guy, but I think it equates. I believe that the human heart, spirit, and soul can grow and exand to fit more than one person. But we are often raised in a fiction of monogamy that is harmful..so yes. I think it is possible to love two people at once. The problem is, they probably cant deal with a competitor.
2006-08-19 19:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but I think that you have a problem...your either sex crazed...or you don't love either of them enough. Because if you did, you would't even be in this situation...you know why? Because if you love someone with all your heart, NOBODY else matters...because your true love is all that matters. So, figure it out. And try not to think with your vagina, but with your brain.
2006-08-19 19:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by helpWanteD 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes. I have been trying to love tens of them at any given time
2006-08-19 19:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by DEAR T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COME on...............MISSY.........leave the EX boyfriend...you left him before for a reason..why would you put your husband threw this...the EX- is just playing games with you....don't be a fool and don't allow your EX in your life....
2006-08-19 19:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you chose to marry the man you live with. do you have children? if so, stop it. grow up before you ruin your marriage and traumatize those poor babies.
you chose your life and so make the best of it and move forward.
your MARRIED. no one forced you down that isle so leave temptation alone.
i could have been there myself, but i chose not to be. and, yes, he waited. that was his choice. but i chose to remain faithful to the man i married.
2006-08-19 19:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are disrespecting your husband. You should not let these kind of thoughts even enter your mind.
2006-08-19 19:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by MARIA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋