Should i tell people around me that i only have 5 months left to live?

Question

i just found out i have cancer, part of me wants to make it private so people will not pity me, be nice to me just because im going to die, sympathy, and others, i want to live the final months as a normal guy, and live my life to the fullest. i hope before i die to make peace with everyone i had argument with, to tell my love ones i love them not because im going to die but because i want to let them know that even though sometimes i act like i dont care, i really do.

i just found out i have cancer, part of me wants to make it private so people will not pity me, be nice to me just because im going to die, sympathy, and others, i want to live the final months as a normal 23 y/o guy, and live my life to the fullest. i hope before i die to make peace with everyone i had argument with, to tell my love ones i love them not because im going to die but because i want to let them know that even though sometimes i act like i dont care, i really do.

i just found out i have cancer, part of me wants to make it private so people will not pity me, be nice to me just because im going to die, sympathy, and others, i want to live the final months as a normal 23 y/o guy, and live my life to the fullest. i hope before i die to make peace with everyone i had argument with, to tell my love ones i love them not because im going to die but because i want to let them know that even though sometimes i act like i dont care, i really do. i have a girlfriend for 2 years now and i havent told her yet, but i will soon.

i cried, i just couldnt handle it.

why me.. im so young. i had so much plan marriage. buying my own house :(.

Answer 1

The Doctors have been known to be wrong in their diagnosis. People have lived months or years longer than what their physician said. Cancers can go into remission on their own with out treatments. faith may have something to do with that. and a kind and loving family and friends.
Live however long you have to the fullest and enjoy what life you have.
blessed be.

Answer 2

You've just told a bunch of complete strangers, friend. Why is it so hard to tell the people who love you? They have more of a right to know than we do. Oh - and no matter how many fights you have, or how aloof you act, the people who really care for you always know that you love them, even if you don't always say it. Do what feels right for YOU, not what we tell you you should.

To Yohoho and elizabeth - you two are asses. If you had the first clue about what this poor soul was going through you would never say dumbass sh*& like you did. My best friend died of cancer and it was brutal for all of us. Do drugs? Have tons of sex? Do you know what cancer does to your body? How insensitive and stupid. Shame on you.

Answer 3

OK first of all sorry and second if you want people to treat you normally them don't tell but if you want to tell tell the people that you decide to tell to treat you the same as everyone else and for the other stuff just listen to your heart. have a great life don't waste what you have left pitying yourself. as you said "live my life to the fullest"

Answer 4

I am very sorry for your situation, and I truly admire your strength and positiveness towards life and love...

Many people around you probably would not know how to react to the news - many would overreact, and many would feel it's they who want to make peace with you.

My suggestion: tell the truth to the people only when it's necessary to make you carry on with your unfinished business with them.

Some people who does not know your situation may tell you they are too busy to spend some time with you, or they may say they would be happy to spend some quality time with you at later date -- in that case, you can hint and suggest your situation.

And you don't necessarily have to tell the news to everyone -- I am sure you would like to spend more time with particular people who loves you, and do not want the people line up to your door for their unfinished business with you.

It's your life, and it is you who has limited time here -- you are in my prayers.

Answer 5

that is up to you on if you tell them you have only 5 months left to live.. but if it was me.. I would tell them that I have cancer and what type it is. noone knows how long you are going to live or when you are going to die. no dr nobody can. they can tell you you may have 5 months left. my husband had cancer and yes he died. when we first found out about it.. they said we dont know how long it will be but it is terminal. mayo drs told him he didnt have yrs that he only had months. they were right he only had months left. he lived almost 9 months after being told about his type of cancer. some cancers can be put into remission even if they think it cant happen. so just tell them you have cancer and what type of cancer and live your life the best and enjoy the time you have left to live. live it like you have never lived it before. give it the best.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear you are going thru this. Perhaps you can prepare by writing some journals to give to your loved ones. Write in there whatever you feel and your fondest memories and why you've appreciated them so much.

After doing so, there will come a time when you know it is the "right" time to tell others. They will gather around you and lend support. Let them know what you need from them and what you don't need. It will be your time to let them give back.

I wish you much strength and be true to yourself and your own needs.

Answer 7

I'm really sorry to hear that. Do what you feel is right, but I suggest you tell them when it's close to the end at least so it won't come as a big shock. People mourn a lot longer for someone who died suddenly.

Answer 8

I am very sorry to hear that. I think you should do what you feel you should do. Maybe you shouldn't go around telling everyone, but if there is someone you feel you need to tell, then tell them. I hope that everything works out for you. You will be in my prayers.

Answer 9

I work at the grocery store. One of my customers has brain cancer and I have tried to be supportive of her as a friend. One day this week on my way back from break, I noticed her and she was in line paying for her stuff, but talking on the phone with her doctor. Turns out he said she has ONE MONTH to take her next treatment or all hope is gone for any cure! She was alone and if I hadn't been there, she would have to handle that moment all alone! She asked me what I would do. I said just get things in order for her kids and to do whatever she needed to for them. I believe we all die whatever day God said we would on the day we were born!
My grandaddy died of cancer in 2001. He wanted to see all his friends and family from everywhere before he died. They come from two states away in several different locations to say BYE to their Uncle Ed. You're gonna need your family and they're gonna need closure! Be sure you have a will with everything you want each person to have listed. Go do all the things you had put off. Don't wait too long to get right with God! My grandaddy accepted Christ two weeks before he died. If you haven't said it yet...pray with me now and say
I ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS MY LORD AND SAVIOR!
That's is all I have to offer you. I will now pray for you and your family.

The other night God told me to EXPAND HOPE. I've mentioned it to as many people as I can. It was beautiful. Good luck fella!

Answer 10

Unfortunately, if you want to live life as normally as you can under the circumstances, you might want to refrain from telling people. Their actions will be clouded by the knowledge whether or not they mean for them to be. However, talking about it might make you feel better. That's a pretty big load to have on your shoulders. I don't think I'd be able to keep it all to myself.