Who has experienced domestic violence?

Question

Are you still there? How long did it take you to leave? I experienced it out of my 5 year marriage about 7 times. I am getting divorced.

Answer 1

I was punched, kicked, had things thrown at me, threatened, and after about 4 yrs or so of that, I ended up cracking up and had to go for a psych admission to a hospital for severe depression. I had no where to turn and it was taking its toll on me. He knocked out one of my front teeth, slammed my head into a wall and busted my head open. I left a splatter mark on the wall from the nail sticking out of the drywall. I filed for a divorce with the help of social services at the hospital and got out of it.
Once you get involved with an abusive partner, its hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Just dont turn back.
Even after our divorce, he came to pick up the kids once and threw me over the top of a car parked in front of my apartment building. The neighbor saw it and called the police who would not even arrest him. They were always on his side. When he knocked my front tooth out when I was about 7 months pregnant, and the police would not even go get him, I just gave up. I knew I was in a losing battle and would end up dead or seriously injured.
I have been raped by my own husband and its just as bad as a stranger attacking you in a dark alley. I learned. Save yourself Dont turn back.

Answer 2

Unfortunately I have to raise my hand on this one. I also didn't leave. Over the course of a few years we went through some serious counseling and he went through three anger management programs( they didn't exactly work like I had hoped the first or second time around). I'm a patient person, and I saw something in him that made me realize he can change. I don't recommend this for everyone, every situation is different and not everyone is as lucky as I was. I wish you well honey...just keep your head up.

Answer 3

I was told by domestic violence counselors that it takes an average of 7 attempts for the women to leave for good.

Answer 4

Hi. Yes I have. I'm a divorcing husband. I never raised a hand to my wife in attack or retaliation or defense,even. One night she went psycho and after striking me repeatedly, kicked me and did permanent damage. The thought of the police taking away my children's mother kept me from calling them. Although I am a construction worker and could have killed her with one punch, I let her get away with it at the time. Now I say call the cops even if you love the perpetrator - their problem will only get worse if you don't.

Answer 5

CONGRATS TO YOU, the best thing you ever did is leave no one should be treated that way. i was in at least 2 realtionships like that and for one it took about a year and for the other 2 years but no more for me married now to someone that dosnt touch me been together for 14 years now.knock on wood no hitting.again happy for you youll be fine.

Answer 6

I was with him for 4 years I had low self esteem and he degraded me on regular basis. I had 2 kids with him and thought I should stay but I left in a flash when he raised his hands to the children! Kudos for the strength to get out and spend your life with some one who does not respect you or your happiness! I they raise their hand in anger once it WILL happen again and usually increases in frequency and severity! Abuse is a control factor and abusers are insecure spineless creeps! Move on to some one who loves and treats you and those you love right! good luck girl! Hugs !!!

Answer 7

5 cracked ribs...2 broken...stabbed twice...shot once...bone scan showed multiple bruises that of course went bone deep. It came down to the question of him or me. When he saw it wasn't gonna be me...he let me go. It took me stealing a camaro and traveling over 4 states...but I did it. And all by the grace of God! Good for you....God Bless You....And don't give up or give in no matter what!

Answer 8

i have experienced it I was with this guy for 2 years before we got married and he used to hit me then, after we got married it got worse and he included raping me as well, lost a few teeth and a few black eyes woke up one day punched him back knocked him out and I left havn't looked back once and I am glad I have done this, I had to get counselling but I am now back to the person I was before I was stripped of my dignity and confidence.

Answer 9

I stayed married a year and a half ....I wasn't going to have him treat me like he did anymore...Now i am remarried and very happy

Answer 10

i have when my wife would get out of line i had to whack her a couple times to set her str8 sometimes you gotta put those women in their place or they begin to think things