So I am being dumb right now.. well we both are. we are drinking and when I drink I start getting upset about stupid ****.. so anyway.. i got on the computer in the middle of us arguing (drunk arguing) I was talking about not being able to have kids.. and he said "yeah thats right take the easy way out and sit your fat *** at the computer" but every other day he says i'm not fat.. (i usesd to have a eating disorder.. i was bulimia. Anyway, since he is drinking and usually stuff that you are thinking comes out should I believe that he really thinks I am fat?
2006-08-19 18:17:46 · 23 answers · asked by Mommy2Two!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW, I am sober now, but by reading this, it made it look like we are alchiolics, but we really don't drink that often, maybe like once a month.. and we just drink like margaritas, or bacardis, and he drinks corona, and bud... but again, only like once a month, if that.
2006-08-20 04:27:38 · update #1
No, it's the alcohol speaking for him. Talk to him about it when you're both sober and I'm sure you will both be making a baby soon! :))))
2006-08-19 18:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is only the booze talking on both of your ends. He knows it was a problem for you in the past and an easy way to target you right where it hurts.
Name calling and talking disrespectful to you is wrong in its self. And the being drunk has added to it I am sure. That stuff always brings out the azz hole in people who take it over board. So the wise thing to do would be to reevaluate how much you both drink. If it is too much then you need to start there.
And work on better communication skills....
2006-08-20 02:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Not Spoiled Just Loved♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also with a man that drinks a lot and says mean and hurtful things, and if i drink i`m like you i get upset A LOT easier, so i don`t drink, at least not with him,in my opinion people say the mean things when they are drunk, that they really feel but don`t have the nerve to say when they are sober. sorry if this is not the answer you wanted, its just how i feel. Please don`t worry about it to much, if he knows it bothers you, that might be why he said it, just to hurt you,some poeple do that when they are arguing, they will say the things that they think will hurt you the most,.
2006-08-20 01:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by animalloverinbama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"fat a-ss" is usually a term that is just thrown out there without thinking about it. Like "dumb blonde" or ....ok all I can think about right now is "fatass" but anyway. It's just one of those phrases that your mind puts together and uses when you aren't paying attention.
He probably didn't even realize he said "FAT a-ss" until he saw your reaction. He probably just thought he was gonna say "a-ss" and it just all came out.
I have that problem with the "F" word right now. I can say it, even though I don't mean it, and not even realize I said it until I get scorned for using it.
Forgive his Drunk fat *** and don't worry about it
2006-08-20 01:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my mom is going through the same thing. Please forgive me, I am the blunt type of person, but if it bothers you, get out of the situation, or you both need to stop drinking. It ruins a lot of relationships, and Ive been through about 10 step dads because of it. No one should have to put up with being downgraded and what not, even if it is due to drinking.
2006-08-20 01:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smells like both of you have a real problem here and it feels like a very unhealthy relationship. First of all "alcohol" is bad and it tremendously affects the way people act and say silly things like the one's he said to you. Either get counseling before it gets too disrespectful if you want to stay together or just be grown ups and brake it up, darn it life's too short and beautiful to be wasting it beign unhappy. Neither you or him need to say hurtfull stuff!
2006-08-20 01:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by claudia91701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all these other issues going on and the only question you can ask, is if he really thinks you're fat? Honey, sober up...your weight is the least of your problems. Oh, and to answer your question, no he doesn't really think that, he said it for effect and it worked because here you are all upset asking us what we think.
2006-08-20 01:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't comment on your body weight. I'd just say the two of you might want to lay off the sauce and/or promise not to fight at night. Doesn't sound like he's terribly sympathetic about you not being able to have kids, or is that the beer talking?
Good look working it out. DON'T regress to your eating disorder just to please him. That's not what a functional relationship needs....
2006-08-20 01:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that alcohol only edit's what you feel inside... and I have a tendency to believe that.... I was married to 2 alcoholics, not anymore, but that was hell....and I believe in my case things came out when they were drinking and they try to hurt you so they say the things they now will bother you...their ***'s...sorry... I am mad at mine tonight too, so your not alone, everyone is fighting tonight, everyone I know anyway...well, good luck hun....
2006-08-20 01:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking does make one say things that they would never do when sober. I found this out years ago. It can lead one to alot of trouble if you over drink to the point of slurring speech etc. Sleep on it and please in the morning talk about this. I do not really think he meant this and neither do you.... Best wishes.
2006-08-20 01:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Windwispers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋