i got a lil mad at my chick and it's been more than a week since i havent talked to her.?

Question

I got mad at her,really got mad in the inside but good thing i didnt let out all of it out. How do i talk to her again?

and i need to know,after a heated contradiction if the men are the ones who are suppose to come up to the girl? or sometimes is it suppose to be the girl?

Answer 1

I've had a lot of fights with my fiance, and we've gone through the mandatory pre-marital counseling ... And what I've learned is that it doesn't matter who apologizes, as long as both people realize and admit where in the argument they were wrong.

Go to your girlfriend and tell her that you were angry. For example: "You went out with yoru girlfriends the other night when you and I had already made plans, and that upset me. I wish that you would remember next time."

This way, you're not playing the blame game and making her angry, but you're expressing your feelings and your wants in a civil, calm manner.

If, in a relationship, one person is always apologizing (I had that problem with my fiance--*I* was always the one saying "I'm sorry" until I told him that I wished he would have more consideration to my feelings and pay attention to what he says to me), then the person that is apologizing the most should step up and express that they're feeling used, or however they're feeling.

Good luck, and I hope everything turns out ok.

Answer 2

Having a cold war doesn't help at all. Talk to her.

Good that you didn't blow your top right away.
Cos you may say nasty things that was not meant to be said.

Talking to her first doesn't mean you're in the wrong.
Tell her what disturbs you & what's hurting you.
Have a good talk with her.

Please do not call her "chick". It sounds like you've no respect for girls. I don't think you like to be called "c o c k or something", right?

Answer 3

Well, that's kinda complicated cause everytime my boyfriend and I get into it I'm usually the one who calls first to try and resolve things, or I am the one ignoring him and his phone calls so maybe you should call her up and apologize, or do it face-to-face with flowers and candy, or boxing gloves and you be the punching bag. it depends on her temper and the size of the fight u had

Answer 4

go talk to her. it may not seem like the best idea, but holding out on her will make her angry. she might even decide that you're not worth it. talk to her and tell her why you got upset. try to work out the problem, that way it may not happen again.

Answer 5

If I were you, I'd apologize first. Things will get better only after that. She won't want to apologize first, so you have to take the opportunity.

Answer 6

Never apologise.....

Read Jim belushi's book "real men don't appologize"

Its a great read and puts things in to perspective on some issues..... such as this..

Answer 7

Well, whoever screwed up is the one who needs to bring it up and apologize.........and FYI, it's 2006, girls/women don't like to be called "chicks."

Answer 8

well if you did something wrong than do the right thing and apologize to her

and if you didn't do anything wrong well then apologize to her

lol.....and if you have to tell her anymore things you did well then let her know everything before you actually apologize

Answer 9

talk to her first cause unsally girls really never talk until the dude calls up and then take it from there tell her u feelings dude tell her u hurt and love her LOL

Answer 10

I'm not saying this because I'm a girl.
but guys usuallly say sorry to girls first just apolgize get her a gift along with a kiss