2006-08-19 17:03:00 · 14 answers · asked by cute_face_chubby_waist 1 in News & Events ➔ Current Events
It depends on whether you are putting your own needs first or your boyfriends needs first. It is very important for a person in the military to know that he has the support of his family and friends at home. Getting mail, photos or even presweetened KoolAid from home becomes very important to a guy in combat. On the other hand, finding out that his girlfriend/wife has decided to be involved with someone else is infinitely more devastating that if he were at home and not in combat.
If your boyfriend is in the Marines he may be going into a combat zone and he may be killed. You will have to face this whether you are married or not. Being in combat does change a person's attitude. He will be more mature because when a person faces his own mortality and sees others die, he prioritizes things differently. He may also be more distant and suffer from post traumatic stress syndrome.
You are faced with a difficult decision. If I were you, I would probably consider getting married because I would want my boyfriend to feel that he had some security and assurance that when he was able to come back that he had something to come back home to. I would be very dilligent in writing letters and sending things to him. I would send lots of photos and some food items or things like jokes or comic strips, DVD's, CD's or whatever he could use in the situation that he was in. The more that you remind him how much you love him and how much you look forward to the time that he returns, the more likely that he will be not to have a fling with someone he meets in another country. Your boyfriend will likely not have time to reply to all your letters but do not take that as a sign his feelings for you have diminished. It is just not possible to write letters all the time. Also, it is difficult to write love letters when you have just come back from a difficult mission.
You must make this decision for yourself. It will be very demanding for you. You must decide whether you are able to make that commitment and face that challenge. Apparently, your boyfriend is willing to make a commitment for his country. You should be proud of him for that. What he will be doing is very, very difficult.
2006-08-19 17:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WAIT! i was engaged to a boy that left for the marines (i know all guys won't be like this) however we didn't make it too long after the year it took for all his boot camp and mos school. let's just say the rumors or stories you hear about a girl in every port, for the most part it is true. and again i want to say not all military personnel are like that. i hold alot of respect for each and every member of the military. so aside from what everyone tells you on here, your friends and families...go with your gut feeling. only the both of you know what is right in your lives. my recommendation is to wait just because of my past experience but also i'm guessing you both are very young so that is also something stacked against you. the majority of divorce statistics are that of young couples and high school sweethearts. you'll know when the time is right. good luck, and possible congrats!
2006-08-20 00:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
were the two of you planning on getting married anyway? is he already enlisted? being a wife of an newly enlisted is very difficult, especially if you are young. he will be gone for a long time. can you take that being alone and not wanting company? rather you try it single and see how it goes then getting married and end with a divorce. when he comes home and the two of you still feel you want to get married, then you should. that's my opinion. rushing into marriage never works. Love conquers all.
2006-08-20 00:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! You will discover he comes back a totally different person than who left. I don't mean it in a bad way -- but you might find you have grown apart or developed different goals and stuff. Be patient, and wait.
2006-08-20 00:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't wait for any more answers just go and get married. He will be back within next few days in a six horses cart. People will congratulate you for winning a lottery
2006-08-20 00:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is better to wait and see for " Absence makes the heart go fonder".
2006-08-20 00:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by rhinogirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really love him? if so I hope you marry him. If neither you feel it is time, perhaps you should wait. Out of curiousity, what is your real name? it seems awkward to refer to you as r...b.... I hope to hear from you! Robb aka Shiney
2006-08-20 00:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by shiney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait
2006-08-20 00:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ah go ahead and marry him. When comes back in a box you get his insurence.
2006-08-20 00:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
after reading you rother questions you better get married before he goes so you will have some medical insurance for that BABY!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-20 02:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by chick a dee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋