his idea of getting me to have sex is saying," honey, im horney" talk about a turn off. atleast he used to try even if it was corney
2006-08-19 16:49:15 · 13 answers · asked by rose45 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some times... most of the time... marriage changes along the way, the best thing to do is stay friends and talk about things the way friends do... not blaming or demanding but in a way that is like "hey I see a problem, you wanna help me with it??" Tell him what you do want and would like to hear. He may not do it.. he may, the thing is don't let it go like it doesn't matter, Marriage takes work and it is worth having a good one. People change all though life in subtle ways. Growing and maturing together, can keep you happy & together a lot longer.
2006-08-19 17:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by 13 ths LINDA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you romantic? Do you wait for him to make the first move? There are so many things that you can do yourself that will make him catch like wildfire. Try visiting an adult store - together! Dress up or down for your guy. Ask him to do the same. You need to have an open line of communication here and it all can't be "what did you do today". Set up a formal date "date" with him. Once or twice a week. agree to meet somewhere or do somehting special for each other in turns. This week you next week him. Make it a point to write these things in a calendar and prepare during the day for a secy evening with your mate.
2006-08-20 00:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by EZV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you don't make much of an effort in the bedroom either. It takes two. I have this fight all the time. I don't like to beg either and it makes men upset to think of it. Is he the romantic type? Does he struggle with it? If he does, help the man out. We don't mind a little help now and again.
Hope it helps.
2006-08-20 01:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want things the way they use to be when he would tell you corney jokes to have sex or give him ideas if you feel that you cant tell him any of the ideas write him a note telling him your hopes and dreams of what you would like him to do good luck
2006-08-19 23:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you need some communication in your marriage.. you need to be able to tell your husband how you feel.. tell him that once in awhile you would like him to romance you.. to make you feel special.. if he doesn't know what to do for you (like most men) tell him exactly what it is that you want him to do (ie. i want you to bring me flowers... i want you to kiss my neck... i want you to light some candles and cook me a romantic dinner... etc.) alot of men aren't sure what to do in their relationships and think that everything is just fine and dandy.. if you want something changed you need to tell him- and be specific! also, you can start doing romantic little things for him, and sooner or later he will catch on... he will see a change in you, and will respond... it might take some time but it will always be worth it. you might also want to think about marital counseling.. it will help you both to see where you are happy and unhappy in your marriage and give you a mediator to talk through whatever issues you may have... sometimes husbands don't like to do marital counseling, but tell him it is for you.. sometimes if a couple doesn't have good communication skills it's easier to have a therapist to tell you what to talk about and to ask probing questions that help you both get out what you're really feeling in your marriage.. best of luck to you.
2006-08-20 01:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it... Not pointing fingers or anything, just bring it up sometime. Figure out if there's anything YOU can do to help things - have you gained weight? Are you guys not as close as you used to be? It'll have to be an effort on both yours and his part to make your marriage better.
2006-08-20 00:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try flirting with him or wearing something sexy to bed or have a romantic evening dinner by candle light music good convo and see if that will spark him up to be romantic if that doesnt work tell him you need more romance
2006-08-20 00:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you help him along by setting the scene. Light some candles and wear something sexy. Unfortunately after they say "I do" all that cutsie stuff they used to do is tossed aside.
Good luck!
2006-08-19 23:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try it ...you do the turning on!! Have some fun and spice it up. Touch him how you want to be touched, kiss him where you want to be kissed, put his hand where you want to put yours...the roles have changed but you are in control!! It is awsome ...you climb on top and tell him to be still ....use your imagination!! Enjoy and put the love back in your life!
2006-08-20 00:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll trade wild jungle donkey sex for romantic really mushy lovemaking. Then you'll both feel special.
2006-08-20 00:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋