Why love marriages flop in a couple of years??

Answer 1

love always demanding when it comes in relations ,.,things become change and existence of Love never accept that change called routine living

Answer 2

My wife & I plus most of our friends have been married well over 40 years.

We all agree that the first 10 years are not the worst but the hardest to get through.

For the first year or so it's mainly lovey dovey and no matter what your partner does that upsets you, you hardly even notice.

After that it can become a bit like that dripping tap. It's ok for a while but the longer it goes on the more it aggravates you.
This is when the arguments start.

After that, it all depends on the couple. If you still love each other you will both do your best to stop doing those things that is upsetting the other. It's usually just the silly little things that can be the most irritating. Not putting the toilet seat down, leaving the bathroom in a mess and with a lot of hair in the shower, being noisy when you get up to go to the toilet in the night, etc.

Another thing that ruins a lot of marriages is that after that year or so you get the urge to go out for an evening with an old friend, leaving your partner at home. For most couples, this doesn't work. Don't do it. Go out as a couple. Try to make new friends who are married and go out in foursomes.

But going back to the 10 year thing - it really can take that long for a couple to almost blend into one. That's when the real happiness starts.

Answer 3

Because they are no longer new. You know when you go on that first date and you have the butterflies in your tummy and you get nervous their fist sensual touch drives you over the edge. When someone is new you feel in love. You know when your in a relationship only last for a few months because your already know them and the known is not worth waiting for the unknown so you drop them. Same thing in a marriage, it's just it takes a longer time. Your all excited cant wait until the next day. Even if you fight you start to think about other things that make you want to hold on just a little longer. After marriage you know that they are their... your married. So the sparks slowly burns out and you start to wonder whats out their so you can get that feeling back. So if you want to save your marriage then you have to both want to see what tomorrow will bring together. It's hard and if you cant bring yourself to do it. Then both of you need to come to an agreement. Who knows that talk might bring you closer together just because you might find out things you didn't know and then the light is rekindled. You never know.... Good Luck and no matter what enjoy your life!

Answer 4

Love is a chemical reaction. People grow accustomed to each other. The chemical reaction in the brain (serotonin) that produces the wonderful feelings of infatuation and love is reduced to almost nothing. People blame their partner or circumstances for this, although, it is completely natural. No matter how much they try, they cannot capture that wonderful feeling associated with their first kiss. They become disillusioned, lonely, resentful, and even angry. Soon they might find another person who can make them feel that magical-uplifting feeling associated with love and serotonin in the brain. Many become "love addicts" and move from new partner to new partner.

In arranged marriages, the couples begin with nothing except the time-established and accepted rules of their culture, and slowly establish a foundation of friendship and family, long before the love bonds develop. They become devoted to each other. Then the magic of love occurs. That is why arranged marriages are much more successful than love marriages.

Answer 5

If a persons marriage flops after a few years, I'd blame that on immaturity and an unrealistic ideal of what marriage, commitment and real love is.

Answer 6

When marriage hits the wall in those couple of years, it's easier to get the divorce. Staying in a relationship - consciously - is not that easy a job. But that's the committment portion of marriage and actually sticking to your vows. It's tough.

As an aside, it reminds me of something I read in Reader's Digest recently. Two women were talking of another woman whose husband had died. One woman asked long they were married. The other said four years. The first woman said, 'That's too bad. She probably still loved him too.'

Answer 7

Because of unhappiness or boredom with things being however they are, even if they are perfect.

If you don't let the marriage flop at these times, it can come back twice as strong.

Answer 8

The world romanticisez the idea of two people coming together in a whirlwind romance and constantly being happy-- that's not realistic.
Its the expectations that we put on others that ruins it. We have to realize we married a human being, not a superman or superwoman.

Answer 9

because it wasnt love.
for one thing too many people nowadays mistake obsession and lust for love.
when two people are truly in love they stay together nomatter if they are married or not. when your really in love you fight to keep the relationship, you compromise and give in to your loved one. when you have a disagreement you stay and figure it out together when times get tuff you have to talk to eachother and help each other get thru it. I really think people just wait for the preacher to pause talking and just say "i do" if they actually lisened to what he was saying most people would say "I DONT!" because they dont actually want to have to stick with it and see it through. they were just thinking about how good it would be to beable to own this person while they wanted them.
when he said for better or worse for richer or poorer for sickness and health. most people are thinking i cant wait till we get back to the hotel room i gona rock their world. and those that are just obsessed over the other "party" they only hear - "for better and richer and health" they seem to forget that to get a rainbow you must have rain!

Answer 10

Mostly because after you get him/her to commit, you sometimes start taking the relationship for granted. It is something that needs communication and working at to make it a lasting one.