2006-08-19 16:40:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't ever call them when you are mad talking crap about him. don't ever talk when you are nervous. don't talk bad about anyone in front of them. don't get pregnant before yall are married. just be nice with a clean mouth that tries to empower him to do anything that he wants and clean up after everyone when you go to there house for a bar-b-que or something. oh this is good, always mail cards for all occasions and especially thank you cards for anything.
2006-08-19 16:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by rhiannon2r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at first I would recommend that you would live as far away as possible. But that don't solve anything. You have got to remember that they probably feel as scared of you as you do of them. After all, you are taking their beautiful baby boy from them. I think that the first thing is not to go and get pushy with them. Stay back and wait for them to make the first move and watch and learn. Offer to do only things that will not make them feel unwanted and only make suggestions. In time you should be able to cement a good relationship with them. And the mother is going to be the hardest one to sidle with. She has been raising this boy for many years and she thinks she knows what is best for him. It is a slow process, but well worth it in the long run. Be Patient!!!!!
2006-08-19 16:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. In laws are the second leading cause of divorce. I've heard of a book that is supposed to be very good on this subject. It's called, "Boundaries." I'm sorry I can't remember the name of the author but again, the book is comes very highly recommended.
2006-08-19 16:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by shominyyuspa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live on opposite coast limit phone calls only visit on the holidays bite your tongue alot and the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud GOOD LUCK
2006-08-19 16:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by lynx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing is for sure be your self DO NOT be someone that you are not just to impress them.
The relationship is between you and you man.
Do not allow them to get too involved in your things.
And remember that the in laws always look for the best interest for there son as your parents would too.
2006-08-19 16:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are friendly and not nosy, ok, but if not move far away and leave them be. i have a sister-in-law who rides a broomstick every halloween. i strickly avoid her, but i don,t itefere with my wife and her having visits and relating with each other. it,s a kind of a mexican standoff but it,s worked well for a long,long time. you just you be friendly and pleasant,and more than likely everything will work itself out just fine. good luck and mutch happines to you both!!!
2006-08-19 16:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by houdini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah.. are they jerks?
hold your tongue until they disrespect you is what I think. if you get married to your boy then they don't HAVE to like you, but you have to at least be civil with them.
The way I do it? When someone says something demeaning to me or something that I think is disrespectful I look at them with a straight face and then ignore them. Just like dogs. they end up feeling stupid and you don't have to retaliate.
2006-08-19 16:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. They will love you for what you are and for your positive qualities. Elders of course, want to be respected and given extra attention and being asked of their opinions.
2006-08-19 16:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by lady in red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pucker up and say yes, I agree, a lot. #1 live cross country
2006-08-19 16:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat them as you would a boss .show respect and never angerand always be nice and never spend to much time with them
2006-08-19 16:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋