How do I get my live in boyfriend of 2 years to propose marriage? I am 30 years old he is 32. I have never been married and he was once before to a terrible person. Neither of us have kids. We do everything together and talk about everything except this. I think it is time we move forward.
PLEASE ONLY SERIOUS HELPFUL ANSWERS!
2006-08-19 16:20:44 · 11 answers · asked by lakecity21 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ha. My wife told me that she wanted to get married really soon or find a different relationship to be in. I chose to marry her because I love her so much! I asked her the next month. Try that!
2006-08-19 17:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by jlp198421 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried maybe TALKING to him about it?
If he was married before, he's probably gunshy about it and pushing him is just as likely to make things worse than better.
If you really want to marry him instead of being "boyfriend/girlfriend" forever, move out until you at least have an engagement ring and a date set. Playing house right now without even an intent to marry is IMHO part of the problem, and it amazes me how many women are like "Weve been living together for two years and I want to get married but he won't ask, why not?"
2006-08-19 23:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him right out what his intentions are. It sounds like because of his past he's afraid to get married again. Tell him that though you love him your not willling to put your life on hold...it's sort of an ultimatum but it's what you have to do move forward. If you love him and want to be with him regardless it won't matter whether your married or not. If you don't want to risk losing someone you love very much by frightening him away with the prospects of marriage and your willing to continue the way you are then do nothing and let the rest work it's self out.
2006-08-19 23:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you talk about everything "except" this? It's perfectly legitimate for you to bring up the subject. Let him know what your relationship goals are, and find out where he stands. This is the only way to know whether or not he's even remotely considering the possiblity of you two getting married. You can't "get" him to ask if he doesn't want to marry you - what you *can* do is either settle for this situation as it is, or find someone who is indeed interested in starting a family, and not just looking for a relationship of convenience.
2006-08-19 23:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my suggest is that may be he likes how things are going right now and that maybe he isn't ready to ask someone to marry him, just for the fact that he has being married before and it might have cause him pain, so talk to him and ask him what he thinks about marriage and where he sees both of you in the future going....
2006-08-20 00:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to marry him? Seems a stupid question but sit down and ask yourself this question: do I really want to marry him?
He was married to a terrible person once before, has he really dealt with that broken relationship?
How terrible was this person? Has she really impacted his life for bad?
Has he really gotten over her?
Is he using you to mend the past or is he genuinely in love with you?
What is your reason for wanting to get married? Believe me worse than living together is to have a bad marriage.
2006-08-19 23:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u ask what his intentions are to ur future together, if he says hes not ready, then u ask if he ever plans on being ready, tell him u dont mind waiting, but u need to know thats where this is headed, because life is short, and u dont want to be wasting ur time if he has no intention of making u his wife.
2006-08-19 23:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer him 2 points
2006-08-19 23:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by ssshoebox67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont always beleive in tradition ASK him yourself.
seriously just ask him, be yourself.
Dont spend a another day wondering what if or when or how.
2006-08-19 23:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by matt p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, he has to be ready.
2006-08-19 23:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by NMSherwin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋