My husband and i always argue?

Question

i have been married for almost a year, and so far we only argue about money. I came from well-off family but my husband isnt. I didnt care but after we got married, thats all we argue about, i mean sometimes i dont even go shopping for months to buy me clothes. But in couple of months my husband got partnership with his family in business. What should to stop aruging about money??

Thank you

Answer 1

I would say to my husband, hey baby, Let's not argue about this anymore. I love you, I married you based off of love, not money! We'll get threw this, honey! Because I'm with you threw the good times and the bad. We can get threw this thing together, it's not the end of the world. LETS WORK TOGETHER, after all, we are partners. LET'S COMMUNICATE BETTER and just talk about it and be kind to one another not abusive! REMEMBER that you love one another and how much you love each other. So, When,,, you argue (every one that you are close with does!) Remember that you still love them and it's okay if they have a different opinion because it helps you and him get a second opinion and different perspective on things, even if you may not like it, still respect their thoughts and opinions and you will see results. Just find a middle ground with him, find out what you both could do to make things work out for both of you, problem solving together will be fun and less irritating than arguing about it all the time! Discipline yourself not to fall into that trap again and take baby steps to the road of broader thinking and a much better relationship with your husband!

Answer 2

First start to realize that your marriage is very young and you must have some stress point to get you to start working together. All young marriages must go through a time of stress and strain and in your case money is the base for that. so be prepared for the challenge.

Next, start to us money as the base from which to plan. Money is a important resource and so must be carefully used. Develop ways and means to spend it wisely.
Next, you really need to start living in the present. I have a little concern in that you said that you came from a well-off family. Is it that you are trying to live like you use to? Are you intimidating your husband with your money?
You said that you have been married for one year and then you said that sometimes you "dont even go shopping for months to buy clothes". How much clothes do you need to buy in such a short time to be so uptight?
My dear to stop arguing, you may have to create some new standard for using money get a definite spending plan and try to live on the small amount until you get rich. Next time married a man who do not have problem with money.

Answer 3

you will never stop arguing over money i have been married for ten years and that is our biggest argument but some things you could try is to have him wright out all the bills and start putting both of you on a budget each week allow your selfs to spend say $100.00 each per week on what ever you all want that way he will see that you aren't just blowing money that he feels he is the only one making and he feels that way cause my husband feels that way i think most men do tell him or start wrighting down every penny you spend and the next time you all start arguing about how much you spend tell him here is what i spent this week or this month good luck if you find out the answer to stop this problem let us all know good luck

Answer 4

in every relationship this isa cause it all depends how we wrgue and agree about the financial things that make it all work out,i would stop arguing about it,seriously if you have shoes a pair of jeans a couple of tops then what sthe problem we dont realllly need the clothes do we? it is nice to be able to splurge on your self yes but can you see where he is coming from he is trying to think about your and his future and buying clothes isnt going to get that,its not really worth arguing about but if you think it is then both go see a marriage counsellor

Answer 5

If both of you are working try this approach: Do a comparison of how much each one makes and split the bills accordingly. For example if you make 50,000 and he makes 40,000 you split the bills 55% and 45% respectively. It makes the contribution to expenses more equitable and creates less of a burden than a 50 50 split (which would cause the lower paid spouse to contribute more accordingly). Also keep you credit card bills separate and each is responsible for your own cards. when planning for a vacation or trip - pull resources from both sides to make it a fun time.

Answer 6

YES STOP ARGUING.. ur missing out on so much happiness cause ur too hung up on money.. if u want to go shopping then if u have a job save money to go out shopping that doesnt take away from the household money.. if u dont have a job, go get one so u can spend ur own money on shopping.. But for petes sakes.. stop arguing over petty crap..

Answer 7

Sounds like a very controlling husband and your son is growing up to be just like him. Appears to be domestic abuse (verbal) to me and you are suffering depression because you have been putting up with this behaviour for too long, it is undermining your self confidence. I would like to suggest you seek some counselling from a Domestic Violence shelter - There you should find the support you need. A man to treat his wife this way is shameful; he threatens you with taking away your child, saying you are suffering manic depression, won't allow you to go out when you want, controlling, I wouldn't be surprised if he controls all the household money too, etc. Please get the advice and support from one of those shelters - You will find that you are not alone and build a better life for yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

What is that saying, "the greed of money is the root of all evil" well, its true. Think about it this way, would you rather have some new clothes or have you husband who loves you unconditionally? If you cannot sort it as well as you want, see a counselor.

Answer 9

The two of you should set aside money plans & arrange how it will be spent. This way, the two of you can both enjoy the money that you do have. Please remember a happy marriage isn't about how much money you make; the two of you need to learn to appreciate one another rather then the money you make.

Answer 10

That is the number one cause of divorce, I would maybe see a counsler. Go to a financial place and see if they can help, that or just stop fighting back.