dont make the mistake of asking advice here, people make inaccurate & mean assumptions about you.?

Question

i believe we all know that we are the only 1's who can make our own choices, but this is just seeking advice & there is no reason people should assume other details & then tell you how you SHOULD feel. i DO NOT shuffle men in & out of my childrens lives, & yes you CAN luv more than 1 person as there are differrent kinds & depths of loves with many reasons why. praise those who answer from their hearts, minds & experience. i have not screwed with anyone's feelings & have had my share of trauma & had no choice but to grow up at a VERY young age, NOT even referring to my 8yr marriage & first child at 17, but LONG b4 then. my 16, 13 & 7yr old knew my current b4 it was a relationship. my oldest 2 are from my marriage, my youngest from a sad loser i was with for 5yrs(at least i was blessed w/ her) this is the 4th major relationship i have ever been in, this current 1. there was truly no good reason to have an EX-fiance, too many things were happening & we made a mistake 2 let it go this far

Answer 1

This isn't a question my dear, instead it sounds like a plea from your heart for people to be understanding because you have had several relationships with Losers and must have thought each relationship was the Right one seeings you had children. If that's what your asking people to see its been being seen by Millions of women just like you every day. You are not alone , I myself have 6 children with 4 different Fathers and although the relationships were bad doesn't mean I regret having ANY of my children with these men. Heck girl you can't make everyone happy, why you even trying? And last I checked we weren't here to please all the people who are saying nasty things to you, do you HONESTLY think their any better with their Mightier than thou attitudes? People who act like this are USUALLY just trying to draw attention away from them and their nasty, dirty, little secrets!! I always tell people that judge me " I have strong shoulders pick away, at least your leaving someone who doesn't have strong shoulders alone." You have the right attitude so just let what they say fly by you like a fart in the wind because that's all people like that are able to produce "NASTY GAS"

Answer 2

SORRY, I MUST HAVE MISSED SOMETHING, TOO.

SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE DEFENSIVE AND BITTER.

DID YOU TAKE SOMETHING SOMEONE SAID AS A PERSONAL ATTACK?

HAVING TOO MUCH RESPONSIBILITY TOO SOON IS THE CONSEQUENCE IF ACTING IRRESPOSIBLY......

AND YOU DO NOT GROW UP FASTER.....YOU ACTUALLY STUNT YOUR MENTAL GROWTH, BECAUSE YOU PUT YOURSELF IN A POSITION THAT DID NOT ALLOW YOU TO EXPERIENCE AS MUCH AS OTHERS YOUR AGE (BECAUSE YOU WERE BOGGED DOWN FROM RESPONSIBILITIES).

YOU HAVE A LOT OF BAGGAGE THAT YOU NEED TO DROP OFF. IT IS HINDERING YOUR GROWTH AND WISDOM. CARRYING BAGGAGE IS LIKE PICKING UP POOP AND PUTTING IT IN YOUR POCKET. IT BEGINS TO STINK AND OTHER PEOPLE AVOID YOU.

GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE WRONG. YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO BE A PROFESSIONAL VICTIM. POOR YOU. NO ONE CARES. GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON.

EACH "MISTAKE" IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO IMPROVE SOMETHING, OVERCOME SOMETHING, AND LEARN SOMETHING. YOU WILL GAIN WISDOM IF YOU RESOLVE TO REALIZE THAT YOUR WAY DOESN'T ALWAYS WORK, AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY RATHER THAN BLAMING OTHERS FOR YOUR DEMISE.

YOU ONLY DATED A FEW GUYS, SO IT'S UNDERSTANDABLE YOU HAVE HAD LITTLE EXPERIENCE WITH MEN AND WERE EASILY DUPED. EACH GUY TEACHES YOU MORE ABOUT YOURSELF, SO DATE MANY. AND DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BECOME EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN THE GUYS WHO'S ACTIONS DO NOT MATCH HOW THEY SAY THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU.

REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE KIDS NOW. THEY ARE MONITORING YOU 24-7. SHOW THEM HOW RESPECTABLE, RESPONSIBLE PRODUCTIVE ADULTS BEHAVE. BE CAREFUL WHAT KINDS OF MESSAGES YOUR BEHAVIOR SENDS THEM.

RELAX AND REALIZE THAT 90% OF YOUR ATTITUDE IS HOW YOU HANDLE THE 10% OF THINGS IN LIFE YOU CANNOT CONTROL.....

Answer 3

don't let a few bad apples make us all look bad gypsystarr. Many good ppl on here,..i think that some really care about others,..i know i do. If i can give any advise to anyone that ends up helping them in some way,..then it made my time on here worth it. I do wish you the best of luck,..you are in a bad situation. good luck.

Answer 4

Your deserve alot for saying that. I really see where your comming from. Some people, just have no idea how hard life can be, til they go through lots of truama,heartaches, & experiences.!!!!!!. They realize one day, when everything,is out of sorts for them.

Answer 5

well, everyone has their own opinions on here, and some of it you may not agree with, or then again, may not even like. If you find it offensive and wrong then do not post on here and ask for peoples opinions. It is that easy...

Answer 6

Is there a question hidden among the semi literate mass of wailing I see before me?

Answer 7

carry forth on sister! I agree a hundred%. human beings do no longer know each and every thing and that they are able to be very impolite and thoughtless! do no longer take it to heart! human beings are stupid! i think to your situation!

Answer 8

Never give up! Keep looking and trying and you will get what you're looking for..Good luck, I'm rootin' for you..At least you're trying..

Answer 9

I think I am missing a prior post.

Answer 10

how long did it take you to find that out?