Why are people so quick to talk divorce when time are rough?
2006-08-19 15:45:13 · 13 answers · asked by skept1c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Must husband and I were quick to marry...no building intimacy time involved. But we are staying put. And my parents (step father and mother) knew each other 3 mos. before they got married and they have been married 33 years. Not time for 'intimacy' building.
2006-08-19 16:11:13 · update #1
because it is the easiest way out...why work on something when you can just walk away?? My husband and I got married 1 month after meeting each other. We have been married for 10 years. We are currently going through a very bad time...advice from friends...just get a divorce...HELLO...I'm not ready to just throw away 10 years of marriage to the father of my children without at least a fight. It is sooo sad that people don't make the serious committment anymore...When I said my vows I meant them. If it is not a matter of abuse, you should fight for your marriage, not walk away from it.
2006-08-19 16:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by monkeedee2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this were 100 years ago, divorce wouldn't have been the answer. The man would have just left (mine gold, railroad). No one ever discusses this, but it is extremely well documented. Through out history, there are many histories on men just leaving.
Divorce in it's current form is very new, from a business end of things. There is whole industry built around divorce As far as human nature is concerned, it is rare that couples last regardless of the latest superficial aspects (ring, church, park, dinner, whatever) or temporal placement.
It should be understood that some people are just not ever going to make a good husband or wife or partner no matter how many cousilling sessions visited. I would say 95% of the human population should never get married. IF people want children, have a child, maintain support but realistically there isn't any need for the parents to live together. So long as the child has both people that's fine.
2006-08-19 16:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by SpankyTClown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people build their relationships on sex rather than friendship. Rather than take the time needed to get to know one another and establish a friendship, they are quick to jump into bed and begin having sexual relations. Sex is good but the problem with this type of relationship is that sex tends to leave people with the illusion that they are in love with one another, when in actuality they are only in love with the experience. Couples who take the time to build a friendship develop a spiritual intimacy. This type of intimacy is what gives a couple the staying power which is only achieved when "real love" is developed. Rather than running or giving up on the relationship they are willing to fight and stick it out. Marriage is serious business. It takes a lot of hard work, commitment, dedication, honesty and first and foremost love. Peace and God bless.
2006-08-19 16:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not any speedy thank you to bypass the state regulations. i might in basic terms pay a criminal expert or service to handle each and all of the paper artwork and stuff. as long as there are no longer any assets subjects. in case you progression out of the state no different marriage will nevertheless be criminal until eventually finally your divorce is very final. in case you're no longer making plans on getting remarried then there is not any concern, as long as each and all of the filings are carried out then you certainly won't have ever see him lower back. If he does not sign or take place to court docket then there will be a default judgement besides. What state are you in? States in basic terms have a 6 month waiting era earlier very final paperwork is signed.
2016-09-29 11:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately it's do to selfishness on one or both partner. Marriage is also a vow. So many are not people of their word. Lots of people go into marriage with unspoken expectations. They go in thinking that they can change a person. They are also looking at what the other person can do for them and not at what they bring to the relationship. MARRIAGE IS TOUGH and people like it easy, quick and effortless and it's not.
2006-08-19 16:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by 43andcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because us Americans have a short attention span and if things get rocky we are more likely to ditch than hang around. There are some cases that I believe divorce is warranted such as cheating and major lying.
2006-08-19 15:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because everyone wants a quick solution to their problems, and figures this is the way to do it.
I think it would be so much harder to go out and date again, trying to raise and support my kids on my own, and having no one to talk to at the end of the day. We have been through some hard times, but here's how we have managed to make it for 13 years.
I always think of him, and what he needs. He always thinks of me, and what I need. That way we are never self-absorbed, and our needs are met!
2006-08-19 15:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by canadianrobynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy way out. Too lazy to make things work
2006-08-19 15:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by nicki_wants_to_play 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is the easy way out. Why should they have to work at it?
2006-08-19 16:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because society says its exceptable these days to get a divorce even with out a good reason..
2006-08-19 15:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋