Just tell him that you are having a hard time right now and that you need his help.If that doesn't work,go to your local child support office and request an increase,they will get it from him if he works at all.I know you feel sorry for him,but it doesn't seem that he cares much about you or the wellfare of his children,otherwise you wouldn't be having this dilema.
2006-08-19 15:32:55
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answered by girlqueen 5
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Ask him politely for the money he owes you. If he gets huffy, tell him there is a child support order in affect that he's obligated to abide by and if he doesn't do it you will enforce the order through the courts. It's not your fault he isn't working steady. Do you think he would come to your rescue if you didn't work steady - I think not. Also why not check with the school about free or reduced lunch prices. If your son drives then maybe he could get a part time job to help alleviate the cost of car insurance. Also tell your son he has x number of minutes and if he goes over then he has to pay or the cell phone gets shut off. I bet he'll get on his dad's case about it then.
2006-08-19 15:51:48
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answered by yada yada 1
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Screw being subtle.. either get in contact with ur states child support enforcement office and make him pay through the state, here in Florida its a matter of filling out a couple of forms and sending it in with a money order for 25.00 , i printed the forms right off my computer, and if u dont want to go that route get in touch with supportkids thats an organization that goes after ur x .. screw subtle, he'll only stop when it suits his needs even if he did start paying again..
2006-08-19 15:57:45
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answered by brwneyedgrl 7
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DO you know he could go to jail for not follorwing the cout order, even more some states if not all they take their driver's liscence away and put them in jail if they don't pay child support, HE IS OBLIGATED to your kids. You can even ask the court to order that they take the money directly out of his check, if he is working. You are not bothering him is his responsability. TAKE HIM TO COURT!!again
2006-08-19 15:38:09
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answered by fun 6
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These are his children also and he needs to put in as much as you do, he needs to feel the pressure you are, so take him to court, have a lawyer make daily phone calls to him until he realizes that just because he doesn't see his children all the time they're still there. It didn't take just one person to make these children
2006-08-19 15:49:38
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answered by sadmyles 1
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my cousin had the same problem so she decide to have the kids ask him for money but they had to promis to give it to her or have him take them to the store and buy new clothes and school supplies after he had to be in the store with a 12 year old girl he decided that paying mom was a lot more convenient than spending hours in the mall and if that doesn't work then take him to court good luck
2006-08-19 15:40:29
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answered by christy b 3
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flat out tell him hes going to have to find a way to chip in, or youre going to have to get a court order. and dont feel bad, the court will only take up to half, depending on both of your incomes. he is your ex for a reason.
2006-08-19 15:33:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Be assertive hun. He should contribute to his kids. Don't feel bad for him. Does he spend time feeling bad that you pay all the bills while he is not? I doubt it.
It sounds as if you are a very caring person but if he is ordered to pay then go the legal route and have the payment enforced.
He is not paying you he is paying for his kids. Don't feel guilty. Empower yourself and know you are doing what is best for your kids.
2006-08-19 15:56:50
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answered by cuddlefire78 2
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If you have a friendly relationship with this man just tell him you need help or other wise suggest he take the kids and support them full time and you not work and see how he feels.
2006-08-19 15:39:18
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answered by angel_64 3
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A "subtle" way? He's not being very subtle in evading his financial responsibilities; you need to tell him straight on that you expect him to follow through with his share.
2006-08-19 15:42:26
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answered by Anonymous
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