sex what do you think?

Question

Ok i am in 9th grade and have had the same boyfriend since 3rd grade i want to have sex but i don't want to be labled as a slut and i know it will get around some how so what do you think should i have sex or wait

Answer 1

Have sex with yourself, then if it gets out, you'll know who to blame.

Answer 2

Take it from me a previous teen mom wait.....

You are only in the 9th grade. And if you have dated since the 3rd then you should definitely wait. You have your whole adult life to have sex.

First, you need to finish school. If you have sex now you could get pregnant or get a sexually transmitted disease.

Raising a baby at your age is not easy. Kiss all your friends and your high school social life away. And recent studies have shown that girls who get abortions later regret them and that they have a high suicide rate.

I'm not trying to scare you from ever having sex. I'm just tyring to make you think of the consqeneces that can happen to a girl your age.

Sex can be a great thing when you are with the right person and at the right age.

But If you already have it set in your head to do this no matter what anyone tells you then you need to go and get put on birth control. Take your pills and wait a month and even when it is safe to do it have him wear a condom. Birth control don't stop disease!!!!!!!!

Things change when you get into high school. If you are in a big district then you will be seeing other people you never seen before coming from other middle schools. Not to mention upper class man.

At some point and time you are gonna both start noticing others. You or he may become attracted to other people as well.

And at some point you or he may find yourselves wanting to date different people.

How do you know that he isn't feeling that way already?

You are what 14 or 15 years old? Neither one of you know for sure right now that you will end up together.

Okay so now you are saying you don't know how i feel I love him and we are gonna be together forever. I know that is how you feel right now but in time you may not. And chances are he won't feel the same about you sometime in the near furture.

Do you want to look back some day when you are older and say I regret what I did?

If you love him and he loves you then you will both wait until you have at least graduated from school. And if you are still together then go for it.

Because if you can survive High School without dating anyone else then it is meant to be for you both.

Example, what happens if you give in and shortly after he breaks up with you. How are you going to feel?

You are going to be hurt.

You need to hold out and respect your self. And if he loves you then he won't pressure you and he sure won't threaten to get it else where.

If he does pressure you to have sex and threaten to go get it else where then you don't need him anyway. Thats not true love. True love is patience.

I know you think that if you don't give it up to him that he will leave you. Chances are if he has threaten you with that already that no matter what you do he will leave.

Again, I'm not you. I can't make you choices. But I can give you information and hope that you follow it.

I don't regret my son. But I regret the deed that I did at the age I did because I was still just a baby my self. Although at that age I thought I was grown.

Having a baby makes you grow up quick. And the people you thought were your friends quickly scatter when a baby comes into play.

And you just can't go out and do the things you once did because you have a baby.

I really hope you wait!!! But if not protect yourself. Be smart about this.

And if you have only had sex with one guy then you shouldn't be labled as a slut. Thats only when you sleep around alot.

I hope this message helps you make the right desision.Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

Definitely wait! In 9th grade, even if you feel as though you're ready, and I know you've heard it before, really there are MUCH more important things going on in your life to concern yourself with. Take your time, go slow - don't rush anything! it's just not worth it with the risks that there are today. Not to mention the rumor that might go around school. Whether you like to admit it or not, guys at that age WILL tell their friends, and once the story is out and everyone knows, there's no way you can take what you had done back. Good luck!

Answer 4

You are only in 9th grade.Why do you want to rush into having sex at the age of 14?You have the rest of your adult life to have sex.It would be best to wait even if he wants you to have it now because what happens if you get pregnant and you doon't take the 72 hour pill?Would you have the kid or have an abortion.Enjoy your teenage years becaue they go by so fast.If you did have a baby there wouldn't be anymore hanging with friends at the mall,park,or movies.You would have to make sacrifices.

Answer 5

I think that you should wait until you are married. But it is your decision you just need to remember that there are consequences for everything and the way high school is you will be labeled a **** or anything else that people can think of. Plus there is the risk of getting pregnant even if you use something. Nothing is 100% SAFE.
There's something to think about.
Good Luck with your decision

Answer 6

Your in the 9th grade!!!!!!!!!! Do you intend on having babies too?? You are going to be getting a lot of NNNNNOOOOO!!! My sister had a baby, when she was 17 and it was not planned. It put a lot of stress on her and the family. You are way too young, and I guaranty that the boy your with will not stick around if you do have sex. Be smart. I know you are, because your thinking about it. : )

Answer 7

The only one who can make that decision is you. I waited until I was twenty because in this day and age with diseases and pregnancy you have to be safe. I will say this if you and your boyfriend do decide to have sex please make sure that he wears a condom and that you are taking birth control. You are both very young so you have plenty of time to make this decision and know that you don't have to be in a hurry to do it.

Answer 8

First of all, having sex with your boyfriend especially one that
you have been with for a long time won't label you as a slut.
Second, if you don't feel like its right then wait longer.

Answer 9

U sud wait, coz if u start at this young age, when u reach mid age u already labled ********* many times. LOL

Answer 10

Wait! It's not all that it's cracked up to be. In fact, it can be quite painful for the girl for the first few times. Why rush it, you have so much time ahead of you. BUT, if you do go ahead, please use protection and birth control.

Answer 11

You really should wait. Once that news gets around there is no stopping the gossip.