My wife has a friend, who is "a good friend", according to her..She goes to his room late at night and early in the morning..They live in a dorm building..She's in the military. She tells me that she goes over there and its not hidden that he comes over...I figured they both are just having sex, and he knows she isnt going to be with him, what do you think
Am i losing it , or is something clearly going on..
2006-08-19 13:30:11 · 13 answers · asked by krisisforlife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe that is called a friend with benefits. It sure sounds like they are doing it, but until you are 100% sure, I would keep an eye on the situation.
Question for you: how would you feel about this situation if they are having an affair, would you accept it? or kick her to the curb?
Once the trust is gone, it is very difficult to recoup.
2006-08-21 08:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? Let me get this straight. Your wife has a "friend" that she needs to spend time with late at night or early in the morning? Yeah she's doin the guy. But my issue is the fact that you think it's oaky for her to get her sex on with someone who is not you, her freakin husband! Well I want to know if you'll be cool when she comes home with a nice juicy STD for you. Married is married or does that mean nothing to either one of you?
2006-08-19 13:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very good friend who is a male, we have been friends for approx 4 yrs.
He was single for about 3 of those years and nothing happened between us ever.
And this past year he has gotten a girlfriend and she believes that we have had sex which we haven't.
She can not believe that a male and female can be really good friends with no sex involved.
Which makes it hard for us to see each other. She always has to be around and I really do not like her.
I do not appreciate her making assumptions that are false.
So back to your post.......It is quite possible that they really are just good friends and nothing is going on.
You have to trust in your spouse, otherwise why are you even married? Especially to someone in the military.
2006-08-19 13:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety this is a tuff one for you. See i have been with my hubby for 5 years and i have more male friend's then i do female not becaues i want to becaues i find i have a better connection with men and i know they wont try and sleep with my hubby or ***** like little school girls behinde your back. I have never slept with any of them and dont ever intended to. I have one friend that i to go and see and he comes and stay with us my husband has never felt the need to think that we are having sex as all we are is very cloes friends. Its trust and thats what you base your marrige on. If it was a sex thing they would be spending more time than that together. She might be able to relate to him more than the females where she is staying try talking to her put your concerns acroos but i wouldn't tell her she cant have him as a friend or you will just argue. Try and trust her i know its hard but she married you and just probely needs to have a friend she can talk to that wont crack onto her husband.
2006-08-19 13:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by sweety yhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one. There are many people who can have a relationship with the opposite sex just "as friends", and in the service, you're all seen as just a soldier, so it could be they are just "hanging out"....It really depends on how well you know her, and what vibes you are getting. Why not just flat out ask her if she's ******* this guy?
2006-08-19 13:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by sekhtet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet she just needs someone to talk to... cuz the only time they can hango out prob is at night or morning, the rest of the time they are prob workin out.... RELAX and trust your wife!!
and she may need her sex.. and shes usin him, but dont u want ur wife to be happy.. let her have her sex, and i bet u two will still be fine
2006-08-19 13:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes men and women can just be friends as long as they both agree on that....i mean he is just someone to talk to....But i was wondering does she feel she cannot talk to you without you criticizing her??? i would trust her until you find out more...let it go...or go with her....how about that???
2006-08-19 13:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clearly that shouldnt be going on i say you put a stop to that if shes messing with him maybe you should get yourself a "good friend" too its only fair
2006-08-19 13:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by LilMissYady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men don't want to be just friend's with a girl they want more i know
2006-08-19 13:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably jus tallkin to him trust your wife sweetie
2006-08-19 13:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋