ok so when i was 15 there was this guy i went to school with who was 18 at the time and every day we would make out and he wouldn't talk to me he would never talk about our relationship or answer my questions he would just corner me and pretend to be sexy and he would start makin out with me and i didn't want to lose the only guy who was interested in me so i went along with it but then he spread a rumor around the whole school that he fingered me and that we were doing "stuff" and even though i started getting suicidal and i started cutting myself he didn't care he would just get mad at me and continue to make out with me and at one point it got so bad that i missed school for 2 weeks because i had to get admitted to a psych ward and after i came back he would stalk me through school and keep making out with me and finally everything not just him but he was a big part of it got me so messed up that i had to leave school.and we stopped talking until the beginning of this year
2006-08-19 13:26:02 · 5 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was 16 and he is almost 20 and he seemed like he grew up a little bit but all he talked about was sex, but still he seemed really nice and I thought I still had feelings for him so I snuck out to go on my first date with him and he would barely talk to me and he wound up trying to make out with me under security cameras and then we wound up in his truck and he started making out with me and then he fingered me over and over and over again. And I had no feelings for him but I didn’t kno how to get out of the situation and once again I didn’t want to lose the only guy who was interested in me so I went along for awhile but he wouldn’t stop touching me so I made up an excuse to go home.
2006-08-19 13:26:15 · update #1
But even though I got completely turned off by him sexually I still have feelings for him and I don’t know why!
And after that date, he didn’t get the hint from me not talking to him that I wanted a break from him and he kept leaving me messages like “hey sexy…I miss you…let’s hang out soon….” and never saying anything else and he kept reading my blogs and I finally had to block him from everything. But I started talking to him today because I got lonely and I keep thinking that he might have changed. I am seventeen now. I know that he probably hasn’t changed but he was my first love how do I get over him????? And what do you think of him? Is he just a guy in love like he claims to be or is he just a creep??
2006-08-19 13:26:31 · update #2
he never "made" me do things. like i never said no, just because i felt trapped on the inside so i am pretty sure he thinks that i am happy about everything and that i did everything completely willingly because i really wanted to. but i didn't. so tell me who is wrong me or him. shouldn't he have read the signs? like me trying to kill myself? and that i was a minor?
2006-08-19 13:26:59 · update #3
You sound like you have no self-esteem, no standards, and no boundary issues... o_o You need to stop 'making out' with this tool because, well, that's all he is. ...and that's what you are to him.
You need to get it through your head that he's not the only guy who'll like you or likes you. Why are you so desperate to be with someone, anyway? You're 16! You have PLENTY of time and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-08-19 13:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Slippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is completely taking advantage of you so I'd have to say he is mostly to blame. However, you should be stronger than that. You have the option of free will and although I don't know the situation as clearly as you, I know you maybe could've got out of it. All you had to do was say no. But it's over now (hopefully) and all you can do is walk away and not look back. Just forget him. You are too young to care about the "only guy that was interested in you". At that age, you should have been thankful that guys weren't "interested" in you because when they are, they will be creepy and only want one thing. But the non-perverted ones will be the ones for you to get to love and they will be the real ones to be interested in you and to love you. Just be careful.
If this 20 yo asks you to make out with him again, just say NO! Wait until a guy is truly interested in you and wants to date you at least a few times before even approaching to kiss you. You are worth so much more. You are a beautiful human being and you deserve some respect and a guy should show it to you.
2006-08-21 21:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by anon1mous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't freak it takes time to get over first love, but seroiously your guy is crazy! You were like a barbie doll to him he could take you out of the closet and play with you all he wanted then when he was done he threw you back in the closet! If he hasn't changed talk to your parents about him stalking you don't tell them everything, but maybe you could get restaning order and make some new friends or hang with your friends.
2006-08-19 20:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Melia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was just using you. You're better than that, find another guy!
2006-08-19 20:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell someone like your parents
2006-08-19 20:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by big e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋