My wife's best-friend just passed away not to long ago. I wanted comfort her, the only I could come up with is doing all the chores basically she did nothing but relax. I don't know how to comfort her and I hate to see her like this. Married people give me some advice out there please I'm desperate.
2006-08-19 13:19:56 · 6 answers · asked by williamso06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That has been wonderful of you to do the chores if that's what she wanted or/and needed. That was most kind of you. Maybe if she helps with something together with you, that will get her mind off of it some and draw you closer, comfort her.
Listen to her if she wants to talk. Let her cry on your shoulder.
If she wants to talk about her friend, let her, She has a grieving process to go through. If she just needs time to be quiet and think or pray for awhile, give her the time. Be patient with her, love her, hold her, be there for her.
If you can afford some flowers or a card to brighten her day, try this, Or...get some lotion and rub her feet or her back or shoulders...
write her a special love letter letting her know that you care and are there for her or/and praying for her. Put it on her pillow or some place she'll find it by surprise. Put a chocolate kiss on top or a piece of candy for your sweetheart if you want. Or do all the above.
I hope you get lots of wonderful ideas for your wife from others and maybe some other men out there will get ideas for their ladies to comfort and care for them also.
Thank you for caring about your wife and her needs. You must be very special to ask for suggestions to uplift her and do the best you can for her.
2006-08-19 13:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get her some grief counseling and tell her her best friend would not want her to grieve for her too long. The less she has to do the more she thinks of her loss. Basically stop doing her work and ask her to help you and do things together and go out more. She will never replace a good friend but she will find other.
2006-08-19 20:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing really is to keep busy and moving. Doing all of the chores probably is a little counter-productive in this regard as it gives her time to mope.
Get her out and about and engaged in something that she will see as necessary and productive.
2006-08-19 20:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by anonymourati 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do to take away her pain - as much as you want to. You have to give her the opportunity to deal with her loss. Let her know your there for her. Make yourself availabe to her. Spend extra time with her if it seems she wants you around, but also give her space and time alone if thats what she wants. Right now she needs your love and support more than ever. Now is your time to shine and show her how much you care.
2006-08-19 20:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by missie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is better by far than telling her she shouldn't feel bad. You did well. Let her know that you'll listen to anything she needs to say (and don't say anything except "I know how you feel" or some sort--no judgments). Offer hugs and to just hold her.
2006-08-19 20:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to lisson to her . let her know your there for her. Show her some affection lot's of hugs. they always make me feel better.
I know it is a tough situation but she really needs you a sholder to cry on. thats a few things that may help. good luck.........
2006-08-19 20:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋