I have a beautiful, faithful 30-something year old wife. We are both white. Recently at a wedding, I was having a temporary knee problem so i agreed to allow my wife to dance with anyone she wished at the reception. I'm not the jeolous type. Later, she came to me and whispered, "You're gonna get lucky tonight, mister." She explained that a handsome black guy had pressed against her while dancing and, let's just say she was impressed. He told her, "I'm so embarressed that I'm rock hard. Please don't walk away and allow everyone to see", so she kept dancing, obviously turned on. She was honest. So I wouldn't get upset, she stayed close to me the rest of the night. We had amazing sex that night. A week later, she asked me if she could have a black stripper for her birthday. She said that she just realized at the wedding what a turn on seeing a large black dick would be. She said that she only wanted this one fantasy and would never ask for another. Should I get her a stripper?
2006-08-19 13:18:47 · 25 answers · asked by C C 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Well, first, I have to take issue with the "should I allow" statement, and also, you agreeing to "allow your wife to dance with anyone she wished." Hmm....I find it interesting that it's your place to allow or not allow her anything. This could possibly be the reason she is finding herself attracted to someone else.
And then again, it may just be your wording, and that she was just turned on. Things in a marriage can get a little "mundane", and to have a stranger, a dark stranger, so turned on by her would obviously be something different and exciting. She did the right thing by telling you what happened, and by turning it into something that was a reward in the end for both of you.
However, and here comes the big "however".....What happens if she gets this stripper to fulfill this fantasy, and then the fantasy becomes more....And she wants the experience of another man? I would give this some serious thought and discussion with her, and be very real and open about where this might lead, and if this is a can of worms you are willing to open and prepared to deal with.
What about some good erotic movies with well endowed black men that you could watch together? She'd be turned on, you'd be participating in her fantasy, (and it would be just that...a FANTASY) and you would be right there with her BEING her fantasy man while she watched.
Be open, but be careful.....
2006-08-19 14:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Amy N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should.
I'm sure there are things that turn you on too, you have fantasys don't you.. of corse you do.
Besides you can be there too... why not.
You are very lucky to have an honest wife, you know that you can trust her... I
don't think it will hurt at all, it might help.
Just keep it open and honest. Oh and I hope you don't hold her to the "just this one fantasy", all of us have many, share them and have fun!
2006-08-19 17:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Blaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're either a racist or a teenager pretending to be an adult with a 30 something year old wife. If you are not either of the above, you're obviously an idiot for revealing intimate details about your wife which is nobody's business. And you're also a mysoginist for "allowing" you wife a treat. Who do you think you are to act as if you're her boss? Idiot
2006-08-19 16:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda sticky position to be in. I would be very careful about the decision that you make, if you allow it you might be opening Pandora's box, if not she might feel that you can not trust her. Talk with her and see how you you feel, then make a decision. Remember the favorite saying of my people: Once you go black, you never go back, and the darker the berry the sweeter the juice" Keep your head up!, choose wisely.
2006-08-19 19:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Happy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she felt one now she wants to see one next she will want to blow one.
If you are OK with sharing your wife with another man then go ahead, have fun. But I am going to tell you now, if you say yes this will happen.
If you say no, she will go behind your back to get it... It will play on her mind until she cheats and goes for it.
I guess now you are in a real difficult situation.
If you want her to be faithful stop it right now...
If you think it's a hot turn on for you to watch your wife sword swallow some guy then let it continue.
2006-08-20 04:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's totally ridiculous! I can't believe people these days... I would get mad either way if i was a man or a woman and my significant other asked me such a thing i would be MAD!!! If u do that for her u dont appreciate urself and have no self-steem... That's ridiculous... She's gonna make u feel bad!
2006-08-19 15:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by incognito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of white women have a "Mandingo" fantasy
I worked with a well built Black man who said to me he was getting tired of servicing all the women who wanted him, I thought what a braggart, went to a bar with him and saw the women were lining up.
2006-08-19 13:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fine with it, sure. If you don't mind, sure. If you think your marriage won't be impacted in a negative way, sure.
But I don't think you should 'allow' or 'not allow' your wife a treat. She's not a five year old or a pet dog; she can do what she wants.
2006-08-19 23:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by vintagex50s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treading on Dangerous Ground, I personally wont but that's just me, marriage is Sacred institution!!!
2006-08-19 13:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by JAM123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is important in relationships. if she falls for a stripper she was never yours to begin with.
2006-08-19 14:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋