I'm 15 year's old & I have been in a relationship with this guy for five month's now. Just recently he cursed at me. Just a few moment's ago we were chating online together & here's what happend..
Me:What's up?
My bf: Not much,what did u do today?
Me: Not much either, I just went to town with my mom & sis to go get some groceries.Then my mom droped me & my sis off at the park. It was alright..And you, what did you do today?
My bf: I hate it when you go to the ******* park, I told you before not to ******* tell me
Me:Don't curse at me..That's disrespectful for you to curse at me, I don't ever curse at you..
My bf: I'm sorry I just hate it my day has been bad
Me:Im sorry you had a bad day..but even if you are its still no excuse to curse at me..don't do it again.
He hasn't replied to me after that..The power went of a few minutes after that but even before the power went out he didn't reply..I signed back in & he still hasn't replyed...
I need some edvice..ASAP
2006-08-19 13:13:26 · 52 answers · asked by Savanna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Alot of you ask why he doesn't like me at the park..Reason is (in he's own words) "There's nothing but lil wannabe ganster f*cker's who go there, I don't like you hanging with them either." Even though I told him I told hang out with them anymore he still tells me he hates me going there...
2006-08-19 13:30:37 · update #1
he is crazy. sounds possesive. get rid of him. you dont need a boyfriend at 15 anyway.
2006-08-19 13:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL THE SIGNS ARE THERE FOR A VIOLENT BF IF HE CURSES BECAUSE HE'S MAD WHAT ELSE WILL HE DO YOUR 15 YRS OLD YOU HAVE KNOW BUSINESS WITH ANYONE LET ALONE SOMEONE THAT SEEMS LIKE HE WANTS TO CONTROL YOU AND BELIEVE ME THAT'S WERE YOUR HEADED HE'S NOT YOUR PARENTS AND YOU CAN GO ANYWHERE YOU WANT TO AND CAN TELL HIM WHERE YOU HAVE BEEN BECAUSE HE'S NOT IN CONTROL SO IF I WHERE YOU IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON AT 15 THIS IS NOT WHAT YOU SHOULD BE GOING THREW YOUR DATING EXPERIENCE SHOULD BE JUST THAT HAVING FUN GOING TO MOVIES , PARTIES , YES THE PARK AND OTHER YOUNG PEOPLE THINGS NOT HIM CURSING YOU OUT YOU SOUND LIKE YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT THIS IS THE BEGINNINGS OF VERBAL ABUSE AND IT'S WRONG VERY WRONG NO ONE SHOULD CURSE AT YOU
2006-08-25 07:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds disrespectful and more concerned with himself than with you. If you're the kind of person who treats others respectfully then you have every right to be treated respectfully. I wouldn't put up with it. I'd be busy the next time he wants to go out or chat. I might be busy for a few days. I would suggest that you tell him you won't see him if he doesn't treat you right, but if he's starting to curse at you I wonder if he might not be abusive towards you if you really made him mad. I would put some distance between myself and him. There is someone out there who'll treat you like you deserve to be treated.
I have to say to you and to any other girl out there with a guy who doesn't treat you right....how much are you worth in your own eyes? Do you believe you're worthy of respect? If yes, then why are you with a guy who doesn't treat you respectfully? If you don't think you're worthy of respect, then you need to rethink, because you are! Don't ever let anyone convince you that you aren't.
2006-08-19 13:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's having a bad day then he's more then likely venting, and that's all a part of being in a relationship being there for your bf to vent. I suggest maybe next time ya just not mention the park. I'd call him and apologize for upsetting him, but he'd asked what you'd done. Most times guys mouth off and not mean a lot.
2006-08-19 13:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds jealous of you and very controlling. You are young and need to have fun. You don't need to be in a relationship like this. Move on find some one who lets you be your self and won't be controlling. Swearing at you is emotional verbal abuse get out now why you can. Live is meant to be lived and to be happy go to the park with your sister you did no wrong!!
2006-08-27 05:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO SPEAK TO YOU THAT WAY.
Verbal abuse is still abuse. If you allow this to happen, he will begin to feel this impowerment over you. You should never allow people disrespect you. So he had a bad day and he took it out on you, that's not fair or right. Trust me after awhile he thinks he has right to beat you. Listen it's only been five months so dump this jerk. I'm sure you'll find a nicer guy, or at least one who won't think he owns you.
2006-08-19 13:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really abuse, it's just plain bad manners. There is nothing to warrant language like that in what you wrote. Even if he doesn't like the idea of your going to the park (that's another answer in it's own right) he could have said so in other terms. You don't really need someone that disrespects you like this at such a young age.
2006-08-19 13:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 15.....why are you in a relationship in the 1st place. ABUSE is ABUSE...whether it be physical or verbal...it's all the same...
CONTROLLING is what your boyfriend is. NO one should dictate to you where you can go what you can do except your parents....and they can only guide you in that respect until you leave the HOME nest!
If your MOM / DAD thinks it's safe enough for you to be in the park then who's business is it for this BF to dictate and use the nasty foul language to you?
THINK about it. AT 15.....you should trust your parents....and not some joker...that wants to rule and control your life!!
2006-08-24 23:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled that situation very maturely. One thing I would say is that at 15 he has absolutely no right whatsoever to be telling you what to do. Is He out of his mind! If i were you i would be more concerned by the way he thinks he can order you around then by the cursing. either way he has no right to talk to you that way. he needs to get over his need to act like your father...you already have one. and he probably wouldn't like the way this guy is treating you. So if he does respond tell him he has no right to disrespect you with his language and that relationships are built on trust and respect. two things it looks to me like he's laking for you and himself. your only 15 so don't be afraid to walk away...you deserve better.
2006-08-26 15:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by pmemommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions, yes, that's abuse. It is a VERY bad sign when he trys to control you in the way that he did--"Don't tell me . . . ." Not only that (tried to control you) but cursing at you makes it even worse. Those should be deal-breakers because they will only get worse, never better. You should be VERY, VERY proud of yourself for reacting the way you did. You let him know your boundaries in no uncertain terms. Keep it up!! You may not hear from him again. You'll be lucky if that's the case.
2006-08-19 13:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love yourself? then respect yourself, and dont let anyone disrespect you. you are young let him go. that is the beginning of abuse. if you have to ask it is. how does it make you feel? not good right well, after the mental abuse comes the physical. if youenjoy a man taling to you like that then continue. but i wouod stop it before it et out of hand. you cant control him or change him remember what i am saying . you have a chance now that you are in the beg of this. you dont want to be in an abuse shlter or afraid to go outside for fear that he is folowing you. the signs are there
2006-08-19 13:22:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋