My husband left me about 5 months ago I think he left me for someone else Im really glad that he is gone how do I make myself feel like I am a good person and not cry and feel sad all the time I just want to move on,I never want him back I really dont miss him I think I miss the idea of him .
2006-08-19 13:03:05 · 21 answers · asked by cassiday g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well its natural for you to feel sad, its all still very new. You should start by having yourself a really good cry (one that stirs the soul). Then you need to treat yourself to some nice things, maybe a new outfit, some shoes, something thats going to make you look good. Do some feel good stuff, a manicure a pedicure get your hair done. Go out have a drink and enjoy yourself, once guys start coming on to you, you will feel better (I know that you are probably not interested right now) but it helps to know that you still got it. You know what I mean.
Try to surround yourself with positive people and positive things.
Good Luck Sweetie.
2006-08-19 13:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard being alone did you guys filed for divorce yet? If not I would file since its not worth waiting for him to come back if he is another relationship. Second if you are not waiting for him and you are glad he is gone then its time to look at yourself in a whole new light take what you have learned and move on society makes you think you need someone but in the real world you need to be happy with yourself first before you can move on. Just turn the page life is too short wondering why someone else was thinking about you. You have the ability to be happy go for it life is really too short not to. Good luck
2006-08-20 12:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hon don't think about all the negatives but look at all the positives life has to offer.This could open up a whole new world for you.One thing for sure if you don't want him back you was not in a very happy marriage.So your much better off than you was 6 months ago.You need to be happy with your self and think about all the good things life has to offer.Just keep telling your self your best days are yet to come.
Now smile be happy and get out of the house and have a good time!!
2006-08-19 13:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is loneliness....you were used to having someone there all of the time and now you are alone. Do things that make you feel good and that you really enjoy. Only you can believe that you are a good person, it is never up to someone else to have us believe that. When we do that, then we are giving that other person control of our happiness and how we feel about ourselves. You know you're a good person....if you think about it,he should be the one wondering if he was a good man, but do you really think he is? Time will heal and you will live your life the way you choose.
2006-08-19 13:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off do you have a good support system with your parents or friends? When my ex husband left me for his friends cousin, I was very sad and not happy but i talked with friends and my mom and some other family members that have been through divorces and i made up my mind and i moved on. Good Luck
2006-08-19 13:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing five years ago. I felt so down and out, I actually thought about finding a fast train to jump in front of. The only thing I could do was find somebody new. So cheer up. The right guy is out there somewhere. It's just a matter of finding him. Be careful who you give your heart to though.
2006-08-19 13:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by oceansoflight777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna be very hard, but try to keep yourself busy & keep reminding urself that u r goin 2 get thru this, ur not goin 2b sad 4ever. Just remember, everything happens 4 a reason. And this sad thing that has happened will make u a stronger & better person. KEEP THAT HEAD UP, GIRL!!
2006-08-19 13:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by waycrazyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating, and don't be afraid to fall in love again. Go out with your friends, and have fun. Get a fun hobby. Get a pet. Visit your family.
If you're feel sad for a long time, you might want to consider getting help for depression. There are good medications out there.
2006-08-19 13:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off good for you glad to hear women can get over men, my advise get a make over and get a new look, then go on a shopping spree if money permits and get clothes you would of never worn before join a gym make some new friends keep yourself busy and active get a puppy or something to keep you company and good luck hope you can get over your sad stage it took me about six months
2006-08-19 13:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by LilMissYady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience,your days will be very mixed for some time.for you this is a time to call on friends and family for all the help and reassurance you can get.look back to the early days when this happened and you will see you have come far.you are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.
2006-08-19 13:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by dbecks@btopenworld.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋