How long after a death of your better half should a woman think about getting back into the scene of dating?

Question

recently widowed, have a 16 year old son, a married daughter and a granddaughter, like to stay around the house but still go out to dinner and a movie

Answer 1

Follow your heart, keep an open mind and you will find a satisfying relationship/friendship/partnership.

Answer 2

That all depends on how you feel about the other half that has passed away.Only you will know that...if you were not in love...immediately...If you were madly in love I'm sure you would'nt even be asking the question.But if it's for the sake of the neighbours and the family, probably a couple of years mourning, dressed in black and looking all subdues.I think that would be long enough..while doing this you could work on making yourself look fab, so you can pull straight away and waste no more time..

Answer 3

There is no set amount of time and you get to set the boundaries. Maybe you just want companionship while you go to a dinner and a movie - nothing wrong with having a male friend as long as you let him know that's all you're looking for. Then when you want more, you'll know what to do. It's just like riding a bike...you get back on after you haven't ridden in awhile and it all comes back to you.

Answer 4

look just have fun enjoy yourself .Date have a good time. Do not rush into anything until you know you are fully healed of your first husband. I have been there so that is why I say what I say, as far as taking care of you, take care of you to the fullest get out more go out with friends anything to just make you feel good. Death of a loved one a spouse in general is very hard. I have been there and if you are anything like me you cry, you cry cause they are dead, you cry cause you don't understand why, you cry cause your children are with out. I was never ready to get involved with another person as soon As i did because he could not understand 4 years after my kids fathers death I still would cry. He died a day before thanks giving and he was buried on my birthday and our first Xmas was hell so went it got down to that time of year i was a mess.all I can say just enjoy you and your kids and just anyone to help ease your pain. The saying time heals all wounds, it really does, trust me. take care and may God bless you

Answer 5

It actual took me like a pair months to do it .yet I took long as a results of adult males I take place to have met.Take a great gamble and don't be afraid do exactly no longer assume something greater then a reliable time here and there for now.you may stay your life in the previous you have regrets.i replaced into scared in elementary terms as a results of fact i presumed i replaced into placing myself up for sadness yet i replaced into incorrect reason after many many many dates i got here upon a guy who I fall in love with who i understand feels the comparable.

Answer 6

Having served in hospice for a number of years, prepared professionally to counsel the bereaved, and having a goodly number of years of professional experience, I can tell you that the grieving process cannot be rushed. It takes the better part of a year to come to some semblance of acceptance and to really clear one's head and be prepared to start looking for a new intimate relationship. Many women I've counselled - and men, too - tend to grab onto and cling to someone within weeks of the death of a spouse - and it's almost always been the wrong thing to do.
Look, it's normal to have those feelings of desperate sorrow and lonliness. It's normal to want to fight back with all your being against that dreadful state of affairs. You are exquisitely vulnerable right now - and sadly, there are any number of attractive creeps out there ready and willing to provide a widow with a nice, cozy and exciting tumble in the hay. But the woman usually winds up feeling unfulfilled and guilty, thinking she's betrayed the memory of her loving but absent spouse. And the creep who takes advantage of her is liable to use her vulnerability to rip her off - I've had more than one client wake up one morning with her house stripped bare - the creep drugged her whilst they were getting horizontal the previous evening, and while she slept like a baby, he phoned his cohorts who arrived with a truck in the middle of the night and took everything of value. And do you really suppose the creep had given her his real name and address?
Yes, the loss of a spouse is so hurtful we think maybe we'll die of the inexpressible agony. Don't wallow around the house in your pain. Get out and do something constructive, like volunteer at the church, the local women's shelter, the nearest Veterans Hospital, or even at your local animal shelter, for pete's sake! Know any retired Marines? The local detachment of the Marine
Corps League is starting to look for volunteers to help them with the annual Toys for Tots drive. 'N you don't have to be an ex-Marine to help out (Oops - my mates in my detachment are gonna remind me quite succinctly - ain't no such thing as an EX Marine!). And not to be too obvious - but as you heal from the ghastly loss, you're seeing and being seen. Each of those volunteer opportunities is a fine way to meet some fine men. Just take it slow. And it is perfectly okay to admit that you're recovering from a profound loss by doing this volunteer work! Nobody's gonna fault you for it.

Answer 7

One year is a long enough time for greiving for a death of a spouse.i am not a professional but i feel that the children,even though grown,should understand after a year that you need someone in your life to be with.That you can't live life alone forever.I'm sorry for the loss of your other half.God Bless you and your family.

Answer 8

Most people consider one year a reasonable length of time. You can get away with anything, of course, but I think there would be some who would feel that you didn't love your wife if you could get over her loss in a week or two. They might even suspect you of conspiring to cause her death. Give it a year to be safe.

Answer 9

that's a question only you can know the answer to. you have to feel ready to start a new chapter in your life and be free of any guilt about looking for a new partner. your kids should also be cool with this, 16 year olds can be difficult!

Answer 10

no exact formula - everyone is different - be sure to discuss it openly with your children though so you can avoid any hard feelings that might occur if you are ready to start dating and they are not ready for you to do so. I believe frank open discussions will allow your kids to understand your need to be part of a relationship without making them feel like you are closing a door on your past.

Answer 11

when you think about dating at that time and till the end of your life i think you are gonna hurt your son and daughter specially if they loved their father so my advice is to enjoy your life with your son and granddaughter