we live togather. we have for 1 year and 3 months. He works all the time and gives me his money. he pays all the bills thank God and freak'n'a i can't figure out what is wrong with me! cause i know i couldnt live with out him. i worrie about him all the time. did i make pack him enuff lunch lol stupid stuff! i dont know he is my FIRST boyfriend! my first KISS!!! so i dont even know what it is like to kiss someone else! anywho he has had 9 other g/f's! and me noone!!! & when i met him and we got searious he told me this would happen that i would want to go & want to kiss other people or fall for someone else! but i dont want to! i really really love him! but then i think do i really? he wants to get married in november! & i said yes because i was a virgin & now im not! anywho is it normal to fell this way? i've tried to takl to him about this and it just makes him feel really bad so i told him i was just jok'n with him! i cook/clean/do laundry. have no life what so ever! besides him...
2006-08-19 12:53:13 · 9 answers · asked by .:Rosita:. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thats just it! if he was self centered, a drunk or cheated or anything i would end it in a flash! but hes not hes sweet, and caring, and helpful, and when i first met him HE ASKED to hold my hand, he so respectful! hes not even a grumpy person!!! thats why i dont know what to do...cause if i leave him then thats it, i'll never be able to see him again! && if hes the right one? then im dead!
2006-08-19 13:16:22 · update #1
Look you better get it out of your system now not later. It will only get worse. If you guys are ment to be it will work out in the end. You need to get out and find out for yourself....
2006-08-19 13:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it looks like a pretty complicated sitch. Just tell yr boyfriend that you need space and that you can't stand being controlled by him ALL the time. The older guy you feel close to,well, you need to just make that a friend-basis because he has a girlfriend and if you try with him its gonna mess up alot of stuff with him,his girlfriend and not to mention you and your boyfriend. Also you can tell your boyfriend that you need a break and have about a week to yourself to go out with friends and have a good time or maybe have a small getaway. It sounds like a hassle but you could try simply just going to a nearby town or city and have a mini-holiday. And finally,tell your boyfriend to grow up and get smart or you might have to do something about it,permanantly. Its just a threat and trust me,it works. Its all in the treatning that gets em to grow up... hope I helped!
2016-03-26 22:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. Your intuition is telling you. He's not what you want in your future. You want better. A partner. You will be fine without him. You may hit a few bumps in the road til you get everything together since he's paying the bills, but once you figure out what you need to do, you will do it. Then, on your own, you will eventually find the right one. I know this. Been there. He sounds a bit "self-centered" maybe? Yeah, I've been there. If your not sure about him, then you already know your answer.
2006-08-19 13:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by DIANE V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: Breath.
You will get through this. Everyone who has lost someone who is that close deals with this grief.
What you need to do is spend social time with other people. Don't go looking for a replacement, that will only cause despair. Find friends and do fun things with them. Life never needs to revolve around one person.
There are billions of people in this world. Mathmatically speaking there are thousands of "one in a million" matches for you. You will find someone who will support and care for you again. Trust me, you will.
But first... breath.
2006-08-19 13:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by neoliminal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Find some hobbies you can do as a family.
2006-08-19 13:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow what a situation.... you need to do some serious thinking. maybe you are just scared. if you leave him and you do really love him, you wont get him back later
2006-08-19 13:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your goal is marriage, have a heart to heart talk with him about it, and see what happens. What do you have to lose.?
2006-08-19 13:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes KNOWLEDGE to make a relationship good.
http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice.asp
http://www.cyberparent.com/relate.htm
2006-08-19 13:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me either
2006-08-19 13:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by LB James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋