How about it, children or not? Would your marraige be happier if you had no children by choice?
2006-08-19 12:29:31 · 23 answers · asked by Digital Angst 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
much happier without. more money less problems
2006-08-19 12:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My Son is 30, been married 3 years, no kids and not likely to have any. He and his wife have made the choice. I believe they are making the right decision even though I'm not a grandpa yet. I love them both but they are very self-centered. Wow wouldn't a new baby change them.
I have two children and they are my pride and joy. Life would be so empty without them. You go through heaps of experiences bringing up children and some of those experiences seem unpleasant at the time - but they are all worth it. Their mother and I separated when the youngest was eight years old.
The quality of a marriage should not be dependent on whether there are kids or not. If you are married to the right person you will know it.
2006-08-19 19:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager and young wife I never wanted kids. I grew up an only child and valued my peace, serenity and independence. I actually never felt that maternal urge, and was content with pets.
After 5 yrs. of marriage I had the first bc I wasn't sure and wasn't preventing it. Then I had my son. The time seemed to go slowly, but then they entered school and the years flew by. We have so many good memories of the holidays, birthdays, family trips, you name it.
Sometimes there were bumps in the road, but I'm very proud of both of them today and also have three adorable grandchildren.
I'm SO glad I had children :) Yes, it's worth it! There is no love to match what you will feel once you have children.
2006-08-19 19:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children are a true blessing and a wonderful addition to a loving marrige..i couldnt imagine my life without my babies..even though the marriage doesnt always work out one thing u can count on is those beautiful little angels..and if its two people coming into a relationship with children it can be a great addition just may take a little time to get acquainted and ease everyone into the family thing but in the end its all worth it!
2006-08-19 19:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a proven fact that there is alot more stress when couples are raising children. Children take alot of time, money and parents have to want to put childrens priorities before their own. I would say that when children are young, it is alot simpler and fun......once they hit around 14 yrs (I have done it 5 times) all of sudden they become very self-centered and rebellious. This is the VERY trying time and can put alot of strain on Mom & Dad. Once they move out and are on their own........the conflict diminishes and the parents can relax. So, I would have to say now that there is only 1 child at home now.....we find we have alot of harmony and more time for one another.
2006-08-19 20:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overall much happier with children. They are a lot of work, expensivie, exhausting, unappreciative, but it is all worth it in that one moment of love they give you. I have to admit there are times I wish they were grown, but I wouldn't trade them for anything. I agree with the other answer that they are your connection to the future. Grandchildren are your reward for having children - I hope I have some one day...
2006-08-19 19:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having children is a choice and a blessing. as well as days of drama. but also days of smiles. its all on a personal level but i can tell you i wouldn't give my 5 away for any thing even on their worst day. the marriage happier or not is up to the way the couple communicate.
2006-08-19 19:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No kids and no plans to have any.
I think you should know if you are they type of person who really wants to have kids or if you don't want to have kids. I don't think it makes you selfish to make this decision-- I wish more people would think about having kids before they do so. There are so many s***ty parents out there.
I think a lot of couples are driven apart by children-- expenses, arguments about how to raise them, no sex, no time as a couple. I prefer to have a relationship without these issues.
2006-08-19 19:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh, I know the answer to that one. I didn't know what true love was until I had my two kids...girl age 14 and son age 7. Having children makes our lives better...my husband and I would be lost without them.
2006-08-19 19:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married a year and no kids. We sure do get the question asked a lot and it is annoying - it's like people don't know what else to say; they just assume that once your married, kids are on the way. Life without kids is a true blessing - I love it!
2006-08-19 20:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF and only IF you are with someone who you love with all of your soul and want to stay with forever, children bring a level of joy you can't possibly imagine until you have them.
It's like recreating yourselves as babies, and you look at them and see yourself and the girl you love so much. It's amazing.
DO NOT have babies to "fix" a problemed relationship. It won't work. Babies make a great relationship better and a bad relationship worse.
2006-08-19 20:07:04 · answer #11 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋