I'm SOoOoOoOo Jealous!?

Question

My fiancee and me have been trying for almost a year to have a baby...and its so frusterating and then today his best freind calls to tell us there pg! I'm so jealous!!! i mean congratulations whoopie...but its like there not even prepared for a baby...and we are...and im so upset! I just watched a sad movie with some 16 year old girl on lifetime giving her baby up for adoption and that made me cry and now his freind's gf is pg....i could just throw up....anyone who's struggled with not being able to get pg..ever just get so upset???? its just not fair...i know the fair comes in sept. Is it so hard for us to just get pregnant!!!! it wasnt nearly this hard 4 years ago!!!

were getting married september the 22nd its in 34 days thank you!

I know i'm such an azzhole...i mean i said congratulations and thats great but you know....i just ugh it's like everyones freaking pregnant but me and it'd be one of thing if it was my fiancee's fault but its mine solely mine....

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel. My sister-in-law got pregnant when she was 17... and got married shortly after both her and her husband turned 18!! They were still in high school... and he is a prick. He spends his money on video games... and doesn't like to spend it on their newborn... plus on top of that... he is the only source of income they have... I swear I seriously dislike him (a lot)!! Anywayz... I know... it is not fair... but you are not the only one out there who is experiencing this. Plenty of girls are... some of them wont admit to it. The only thing that you can do is smile and pretend that you are happy for them (and you know that you are) but you are jealous because that is not you. It's difficult... but you have got to keep smiling. Keep your hopes up and don't stress yourself out over it all. Your moment will come. Just keep your chin up. Good luck!!

Answer 2

You should not feel bad about being jealous/resentful of other people's pregnancies. I had 5 miscarriages and struggled with infertility for years and I felt the same way. I even began avoiding best friend's baby showers and not calling them during pregnancies or after they gave birth. And watching how teens would throw away their babies made my husband and I just cry. You have nothing to feel sorry about and anyone who tells you that you don't have a right to feel this way has obviously never struggled with infertility. If you haven't already done so, could I suggest possibly making an appointment with an infertility specialist. Maybe you have secondary infertility or some new hormonal issue making it difficult to conceive. They may be able to locate a problem and help you conceive. Good luck and my thoughts are with you!

Answer 3

I just got done watching that movie but I have seen it actually a couple times. yeah I had wanted a baby for almost 2 years before I got pregnant however I got pregnant 2 months after my husband and I got married and I looked at it as being the right time. They say when you are trying it wont happen however I thought I would never get pregnant and on top of it I have which endometriosis makes it even harder. Well I went on to google and typed in ways to get pregnant and one thing me and my husband did was I laid on a pillow to keep elevated and after we had sex he would just stay inside me for awhile and well here I am today a proud mama of a 3 month old son. I had also been taking prenatal vitamin and folic acid pills to help. good luck and I hope you have a baby soon. :)

Answer 4

I totally know what you mean. I've struggled with the exact same thing. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 8 months, and we've wanted a baby for the past two years. My friends are getting pregnant like the day they get off the pill! It's so frustrating - and it's hard to congratulate them when their news just makes you want to cry... it definately takes a conscious effort not to be happy for them... keep trying, and see a doctor if you are charting and know you're not ovulating.

Answer 5

tell me about it, I'm 28 years old and i have a 10 year old son, and my current boyfriend i have been with him for 2 years and I've been trying to give him a baby, and i can't. All of my friends have had baby's in the past year and i get really jealous when i attend their baby showers. I feel that it's not fair. I even got to the point that whenever i held a baby i would cry cause i wanted one. When my boyfriend and I went out we would see couples with baby's i would stare and cry cause i wanted one. I went to the doctor and had them check me out and everything came out OK. The next step is for me to have, I forgot the name of that procedure but it's where they insert this dye to clean your tubes. I was told that could be my problem..

Answer 6

Hi,

As a woman who's been and still TTC #1, 4 1/2 years now...I can understand your frustration. Honestly 2 years ago, I would literally vomit when someone told me they were pregnant because it would kill me.

Since then I've grown and matured. I'm over that sort of reaction. However yes, sometimes it still breaks my heart when ppl tell us that they are pregnant, and I still cry sometimes.

Infact I remember a time that I told God to just kill me if he wasn't going to let me get pregnant and have a baby of my own to raise and love. That's how much I hurt in my heart.

Not being able to conceive easily is very traumatic for women. We have real feelings about it, and a lot of times people that were blessed to conceive effortlessly aren't able to understand that.

However, Thanks To God Alone- the desires that He places in our hearts for children, are not in vain. We don't labor in vain.

I cling to Hope and daily continue to trust God to bring this to pass in my life.

For me- a lot of people say or think because I'm MOMMY to my two step-daughters that it replaces or subdues the desire to have a child from my womb with my husband...but that's not at all so.

I love my step-daughters, but like most women, I have the God given desire in my heart to be pregnant, and give birth. And someday we will.

Lately our 3 year old daughter has been telling my husband that daddy and mommy nikki are going to give her a baby brother. Recently my husband and I both have had dreams of me giving birth to triplets in October.

Am I suddenly expecting to give birth to triplets in October, no, of course not. Do I think that the Lord could have possibly shown our 3 year old something. It's possible, children are closest to the throne of God.

In the bible there were great women, who didn't conceive easily. Hannah, Elizabeth, Leah, etc. And they grieved as well. But in the end they were rewarded the desire of their heart.

I just take it one day at a time. That's all you can do:) And keep beleving and praying.

Blessings To You & Yours

Answer 7

I understand how you feel because that happened too me before and I thought that something was wrong with me. I was not getting pregnant at all. I would cry about it and say not so nice things about everybody else who was having children. I didn't mean it, I was just so upset. But it did happen eventually..

You should try to get pregnant when your ovulating because it will happen. Please be patient and keep trying do not give up because I speak from experience and I have 3 children now and pregnant now with my 4th child.. Be patient and do not hate on others it is just not your time right now but it will happen. Please believe me when I tell you that...

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean, you are happy for them but just want your own baby. I'm the same way, I am soo ready and my husband also, and all we hear is this person and this person are pregnant. I hate it. Well good luck to you and congrats on your wedding coming up.♥ Maybe the honeymoon will produce a little one for ya♥

Answer 9

i am going threw almost the same thing. i have been trying to get pregnant with my husband for almost 3 yrs. (We recently just go married as well). i work with a girl who is pregnant now. it irratates me because she is not even mature enough. she lives with her bf but still has her mom make her breakfast and pack her a lunch for work. Come on its time to grow up shes 26!!
i start clomid this week so hopefully it will work and we will become pregnant. Good Luck to you! Keep your head up, you will get there as well

Answer 10

Maybe you'll never ave a child! Have you and your b/f talked about that? I'm not wishing anything harmful on you, but in as much as you are so jealous, how will your relationship survive if you don't have a child. That should be considered since you have obviously (ill-advisedly) been trying to conceive before marriage?