Hey guys! if you love a person so much, would you care what others think of you two?
I have a girlfriend who doesn't like doing a lot of things (kissing, cuddling, holding hands, etc) in front of others (like friends) coz she doesn't want others to think something bad about us...
She even didn't like to let me in her appartment coz she's afraid about what other people might think that we're doing something indecent which is not true... She also told me that she's afraid of temptations.
I'm a decent kind of guy and live my life with no one hating me.
I need some advice on how to talk this stuff with my gf...
2006-08-19 12:17:54 · 15 answers · asked by one-of-a-kind 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
not hardly
2006-08-19 12:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she is just insecure, and I'm not trying to be rude by saying that. I dont neccessarily like to make out in public, but a kiss here or there is fine. Just try to help her feel confident about it. I would also ask her if she is embarrased by being with you. It seems strange to me, how she is pushing it to look like you to are more friends than anything else. I mean.. maybe she is affraid of public affection... a lot of people are. But to not even let you into her appartment??? I'd be watching for unfaithfulness, if I were you.
This is just my opinion, based on your question, though. Tough situation.
2006-08-19 19:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Miss T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both adults and she is uncomfortable having you in her apartment, you must respect her space. If the you are unhappy about it , but feel the relationship is worth it, I suggest talking to her about it. You really need to examine the issue of trust. Anf to be completely honest.. in today's society people visit each other all the time...everything is not sex. Who cares if you are in the apartment alone..together or not. Unless she is wearing a badge that says we're in a relationship.. how would people know how to define your relationship. There are some other issues here...be careful
2006-08-19 19:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by surrender 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but this chic has a major problem! Seems like she has a fear of intimacy and is paranoid. She is transferring all of this onto others when it is her problem. You have to decide.....is this the way you want to have a relationship with a woman? You certainly will not change her.....she first has to admit she has a problem then she has to want to overcome it which means probably going to a counselor. She is being irrational in what a normal male/female relationship is.
2006-08-19 19:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with not being okay with PDAs... Maybe she was always against it.
I think you could probably talk about it to her and see what stuff would check off on her list of 'things you CAN do in public'. I, personally, think holding hands is perfectly fine. Making out and frenching in public is just... Ew.
2006-08-19 19:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Slippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs to get over it. As long as the two of you are happy, why should she care what others think? Tell her it makes you feel bad that she values others opinions more than her feelings for you.
2006-08-19 19:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is uncomfortable with public displays of affection and you need to respect that. However, I would talk to her about not letting you into her apartment because I have a feeling there is a different motive for that.
2006-08-19 19:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To hell with what others thing about you. Everyone is equal and we are all human. If your girlfriend was really into you she wouldnt care what others think. It seems like she's into what other think, not that important part which is you, her boyfriend.
2006-08-19 19:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Britt Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody comes from different backgrounds.. I think it's important for you to find out a way to really get to know where she came from. From there, when she can see that you understand her, she will begin to trust you... and with trust, let me tell you, relationships become AMAZING!!!
2006-08-19 19:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by late664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. im like that too in some ways, maybe she just doesnt want everyone medling in you guys bussiness.
2006-08-19 19:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by vre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is lucky to have you as her bf, talk to her about it and find out the real reason!
2006-08-19 19:53:01 · answer #11 · answered by beng_ganda25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋