mind you...i am not fat or ugly. i get my fair share of attention..i just dont know how to make him understand how degrading it feels. especially when he already knows how i feel about it. we have discussed this twice before ..
2006-08-19 12:11:16 · 25 answers · asked by sylonthego 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry i meant the magazines ... but i guess porn videos is up there too.
2006-08-19 12:12:01 · update #1
The big deal is that you have already told him it makes you uncomfortable, and now he's being dishonest and keeping it as his dirty little secret. When you discover he has this sexual secret you fell betrayed. It is like mental cheating. if you knew about it and didn't mind it would be fine, but the deception is a betrayal and the sexuality of it makes it a rejection. If my husband was sneaking porn I'd be pissed off. If he asked me if I wanted to watch porn with him I might laugh, and I might even try it.
2006-08-19 12:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 15:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and I personally think that all men like porn. I won't mind if my hubby has porns. It's normal. I would be scare if my hubby doesn't.
You prob feel being cheated or hurt cuz you told him about how you feel but he did it anyway. But maybe you should ask him how he feels about that as well. you cannot just ask him to consider your feeling without you considering his feeling. It's mutual.
Beside, this is not a big deal. Giving your man some personal space helps to maintain a healthy marriage. Afterall, he is not out cheating on you.
2006-08-19 12:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by SG1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. Well I have a lot to say on the topic. Altho my hubby dosnt like the mags. (too much evidence) he id literally addicted to the websites. he has around 20 hours of porn downl;oaded on our computer. I my self am very attractive. We have loads of sex, yet he still watches porn. Even after we have sex and he cums. His excuse was he was learning new positions and how to make me feel good and s.h.i.t That I know is bullshit because porn dosnt focus on positions or men thankyou very much. It focuses on the women and thier moaning and pu##y yeah whatever. All I can do was put on a porn blocking software and your not aloud to visit 30 thousnd and sommat sites or search using 400 different words so far its worked. I suggest you round up all porn and have him watch as you shread it up. It will make you feel better. Might piss him off but hey if you need the attention you just might get it. I mean a few mags are normal really. but if he has a large stack thats not health. My hubby and I have seen a therapist about it and to tell you the truth it has helped a lot. good luck to you. hey if you wanna talk more about this issue i suggest you e-mail me and we can chat. leaves_of_autumn171311@yahoo.com. Kristen
2006-08-19 12:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think porn is a big deal in itself. It does not bother me that my husband occasionally looks at porn. Although we rarely look at porn together, we have found that sometimes it has helped us to express our sexual needs and fantasies. You say you want him to understand how it makes you feel. That's totally cool; he should try to. But maybe you could try to understand what about it appeals to him.
Your husband's porn may have nothing to do with you. Men really like to look at naked women, after all. But maybe (especially when he has persisted in doing it over your objections) it's a sign that he has unfulfilled needs that, with open communication, you could find ways of addressing to your mutual satisfaction. (I'm not suggesting that you do anything you consider raunchy or degrading, but that you find common ground to explore together.)
2006-08-19 12:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Susan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well instead of complainign why dont you try something different men need to be arroused and after having the same women over and over no matter how hot she is men want to look at other things and some men want to cheat on the side but your man seems to value you and care about you where instead of cheating he takes a peak at whats out there instead of getting mad try something new bring a porno movie home that you like and inact with him on what there doing because sometimes it isnt that men dont like there partner its more that now that they arent single they feel trapped into the same casual sex. Spice it up grab one of those pornos and try to copy cat what there doing with your husband it may turn him on to such a point where he performs for you better in the bedroom i know it worked for me
2006-08-19 12:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I would ask him to hide it better next time. You would be hard-pressed to find a guy who is not interested in porn. A porn addiction would be a problem, but simply looking at porn every once in a while is normal. You certainly have the right to not be exposed to it; if he knows you are offended by it, he needs to be more discreet. Please don't feel bad about the porn itself... in moderate amounts, it's nothing personal, just entertainment.
2006-08-19 12:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel disrespected, and cheated on. I believe that when a husband is commit ed to his wife, it is betrayal when he feels like he still has to look at that stuff. Now that you have discovered it, maybe talk to him about it to find the true reason behind it. Maybe he has a problem, you know like addicted to it? I'm sure if you feel like he has a problem you can leave or help him with his problem. But if he just likes to look at other women like pieces of meat, you deserve better.
2006-08-19 12:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men call it "entertaining" women call it "questionable", so who's right?
I personally think it depends on the man's attitude towards the porn. Some guys are kick back and mean no harm, while others are total ******* about it and get defensive.
Figure out which your bf is.
2006-08-19 12:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would I feel? Nothing. It has nothing to do with me and I know that. Men just like looking at naked women and this doesn't imply that he doesn't find you attractive. It just means...he likes looking at naked women, that's all. I know everyone will have a different opinion on this but personally, I don't mind my husband looking at them. As long as it doesn't consume our sex life, it's no big deal to me.
2006-08-19 12:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋