GAYDAR I dont get how to use it what do you do to tell and how do you make yourself known to others? and like how do you spot people notice I said how not why... so answer something that makes sense to me... I heard something about eye contact before does that have to do with anything?
2006-08-19 12:00:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it's about noticing subtle behavioral clues people give off.
2006-08-19 12:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gaydar is not perfect. You either have it or not, but you can practice and gain some skill. I use eye contact more than anything. Not only eye contact with me, but his eye contact with other men. Straight men, in general, do not maintain eye contact with other men for more than four or five seconds. If a guy makes eye contact the whole time he is talking to you or to another guy, that's one sign.
Also watch his eyes. Does he keep an eye on other guys? Is he looking at crotches or butts? If he's a waiter or busboy or bartender, when he waits on a couple is he more attentive to the man than the woman? But he asks her about her shoes or her hair, while he's refilling the man's drink. How does he walk? How does he carry himself. You just have to learn to watch guys and then start sorting out what you see from straight guys that's different from what you see from gay guys.
And again, it's not 100% perfect!
2006-08-19 22:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gaydar is simply intuition. It's knowing intuitively about someone's sexual orientation, probably because you've exposed yourself in the gay community to so many of the same like-minded people.
I am sure that people in other groups or counter-cultures can intuitively sense their "own" as well (examples would be people into BDSM, Wicca or Paganism, Activism, etc.). Gay people just gave this intuition a name: Gaydar.
2006-08-19 19:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your ipod or walk man at home. Turn off your cell. Don't take along your lap top.
Stop thinking a million things a minute.
You are out to be a student of life. Just be calm and observe people. Take the time to really look at people. Pay attention to what they say and how they say it. How do they dress. Are they looking at you longer than normal? Are they dismissive of you? Are they checking out your @ss? Are they checking out other guys or women?
Gaydar is there all around you. You have to pay attention to peoples body language. If you get too wrapped up in your own thoughts, or if you won't pay attention to the cues that people give off - you will never see it.
2006-08-19 19:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, what people haven't told you is that you need to be 100% comfortable in your own sexuality before your gaydar switches on. Mostly however its about spotting your own attributes in other people, a feeling of kinship with them, and as you become more comfortable with your sexuality you are able to see more. Of course in other cases its just simply wishful thinking :-) As for eye contact, people will generally glance and look away, a guy who likes you will stare and smile. There's nothing mysterious about it. So if you catch someone staring and you and you want to let him know you know, simply stare back ...... and don't forget to smile. As for the rules of engagement ...... part of the fun of life is to figure them out for yourself, enjoy!
2006-08-19 20:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gay or a man, but i've noticed that gay men, really do make a lot of eye contact with other men they find attractive, sort of the a coy way that women do. I don't think you need to change your voice, but when you talk it helps to emphasize it a little more like a question.
good luck!
2006-08-19 19:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask the person you're attracted to if they're interested in men or not, and tell them real men arn't threatened by people asking them about their sexuality, and it doesn't mean they're not macho, some guys can really get offended if you ask that. It IS easier to just ask someone though.
2006-08-19 21:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Socrates1961, your avatar looks gay.
That's just my gaydar going off....
2006-08-22 22:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in psychology if a male makes extended eye contact he either wants to fight you or make love to you...it won't be hard to tell the difference....also someone who's genuinely interested will make eye contact more than once.
2006-08-19 22:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like somebody said, I think it's just intuition. I think it has to deal wiht the innerself knowing something that isn't necissarily outwardly know.
2006-08-23 18:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋