i am 39 well into a divorce and i was asked out by someone i like alot,and im just not sure if it's ok for me to go out with him.my husband dosen't live with me,he has a girlfriend and a whole new life so can i try a date or because i'm a mother of two should i wait untill the divorce is final ?
2006-08-19 11:59:00 · 18 answers · asked by G. kravitz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi,, I think you should date if you are interested in someone. There is nothing wrong with a night out. Obviously your x husband has carried on so you should not have any doubts about your life as your own. You need personal enjoyment in your life or you will fade into boredom. YOU are worth being happy. Go out and enjoy yourself. You deserve it.
2006-08-19 12:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is okay to date before a divorce is final. I don't believe in divorce although I do think the bible allows for divorce in certain situations. I know God hates divorce and there is always a chance the marriage could be saved until the last moment it is final. Bringing other people in the equation makes it more difficult and close to impossible for the relationship to be worked out. It doesn't matter that your husband is dating or not. YOU are accountable for what you do. I would suggest you take some time before rushing into another relationship. Develop a relationship with God. Jesus loves you. Read the gospel of John.
2006-08-19 12:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got divorced I was asked out before my divorce was final . It's tough too , because you get lonely and feel angry that his out living it up. The problem is he is just waiting for you do what he thinks is wrong. I decided to waite because I wanted to know in my heart I was doing the right thing not just for our kids but for me too. I'm sure what ever you decide to do will be right for you. But remember this, not to down men but, A lot that you will meet as soon as they hear you have kids their going to run. Or their going to think you so lonely that you need them to cheer you up, if you know what I mean. Just stay focus on what you want and on your kids at all times. Don't let anyone sideswipe you. Your kids are the most important thing in the world and their happiness needs to be #1. Get them involved with any man you date even before you date him. Ask him over so they can meet him and you'll be so amazed at how they can zoom in on the ones you need to loose and the ones that are keepers.
2006-08-19 12:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can date but i would not bring a man around your kids for a long time...until the divorce is final and you are SURE you will be together for a long time. your kids have been through enough and don't need to see men coming in and out of your life.
and don't take any time away from your kids...only go on dates when the kids are with their dad. your #1 job right now is being mom and getting them through this and showing them that they come first.
good luck :-)
2006-08-19 12:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Jump on this opportunity! It's irrelevant whether or not your husband has a g/f or not - the only thing that matters is that it's a final decision, and you are moving on.
2006-08-19 12:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfully to marriage, NO.
Dating while marriage will risk legal rights to the kids if the hubby has a great attorney!
Dating too soon after a marriage is not safe for your heart, it hasn't healed, and you already want to go out and have RAGING SEX while still married!?!
Geez..........No Sex for you.
2006-08-19 12:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go for it. You have every right to move on with your life. BTW life does begin at 40.
2006-08-19 12:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead I did. It's nice to have a date again. Enjoy yourself he is moving on why dont you.
2006-08-19 12:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WOULD BE OKAY TO DATE JUST DON'T BRING HIM HOME TO YOUR KIDS UNTILL THE DIVORCE IS FINAL. IT MIGHT GIVE THEM THE WRONG IDEA. DATING FINE THOUGH. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-19 12:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I hate to say this but no. It will cause heartache i believe. Stay friends until it is done believe me you will be glad you did.
2006-08-19 12:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by catrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋