I am really good friend with this girl who will be called Girl, and i am even better friends with this guy who will be called Guy. Guy has been one of my best friends for a year, and Girl is one of my newer friends. And the 2 of them were pretty good friends during the school year, and Girl hated me during the school year, now all 3 of us are friends except now Girl is thinking that she doesnt want to be friends with Guy anymore because she is friends with this other girl who broke Guy's heart. Girl has to pick between Guy and the girl who broke his heart because otherwise she is caught in the middle, the other girl hates Guy, and she asked me who i would pick, and i said i would pick who i was more comfortable with and she said she is more comfortable with the other girl, so i was wondering if i should prepare Guy for the punch of loosing Girl or just try to stay out of it and be there for Guy when it happens because Guy is very emotional, but not gay
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2006-08-19 11:55:25 · 4 answers · asked by Bryn H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just stay out of it. Although you are friends with both of them, this is not your place. You aren't in this problem in any way, so don't put yourself in it, that would be the worst thing to do. Let them handle it. In school I had a lot of friends....and I had several friends who were both my friends, but couldn't stand each other, sometimes even faught. But I still maintained my friendships with all of them because I didn't get into the middle of their issues. They had nothing to do with me and I made sure it stayed that way. One thing I can say about this "girl" is that she isn't a true friend to him anyway so he's better off. If she is being forced to choose by the girl who broke the guy's heart, then that girl is a crappy friend.....and if "girl" is going to do that, then she's a crappy friend as well. A true friend won't make you chose like that....If I were "girl" i'd tell the other girl that I"m friends with them both, and that I'm not going to choose.....and if the other girl wants to walk, let her walk, that's what i'd do. But as far as you go....just continue being a good friend, let them handle their own issues and don't get involved. If they decide not to be friends, make sure to do this. Take both of them aside privately and let them know that you are friends with each of them, you understand they aren't friends but it has nothing to do with you. you plan to remain friends with them both, so whatever issues they have with each other, ask them to respect you and not discuss it around you, not to bad mouth each other around you........that's what I always did. If i had 2 friends who hated each other, i told them whatever is going on between them is their business, but that I like them both so when they are around me, don't talk about it.
Hope it works out for ya!
2006-08-19 12:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by £i£-ßrAt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably took a lengthy time period for her to make this decision and in case you call her or something it is going to easily force her away. it may be brilliant to easily supply her area for a lengthy time period (being a a minimum of three months) and attempt to get over her. contained in the destiny you'd be in a position to be friends back or come again mutually then it extremely works out, yet you could appreciate her decision. attempting to get over her is the great element that you'll do, you're youthful and theres extra human beings accessible even even with the undeniable fact that it would not look like it. i'm sorry, it hurts and is difficult, yet each little thing takes position for a reason.
2016-11-30 20:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by petrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell everyone involved that you are staying out of the middle of their problems. and just because you have one friend that does not like another friend that you have, you do not have to stop being friends with that person. If they are really your friend then they will understand and you will still be able to be both of their friends. you just don't want to get in the middle because most likely you will become the one with no more friends.
2006-08-19 12:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by mjp4_28_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeahh....i didnt understand
2006-08-19 12:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋