2006-08-19 11:48:05 · 7 answers · asked by Shannon T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its time for tough love.
It is possible that your husband doesn't realize how much his behavior affects you - that his name calling and nit picking are not normal and are causing emotional damage to you.
I know of men who have been raised in argumentative or abusive households who think of this pattern of behavior as normal. Some of them can be woken up, and some of them can't. Either way, you should try to do change this game of his before it affects how you feel about him.
You need to distance yourself from this situation, and give him some time to think good and hard about what his behavior is doing to your relationship. Tell him why you are doing it, and then move to a relative or a friend's house for a while. If he wants you back, make counseling a pre-condition.
Good luck, girl!
2006-08-19 12:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by AmericanDreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot fix the marriage by yourself. At some point, you'll have to give him an ultimatum, "Work with me to fix it, or we'll have to go our separate ways." Only you will know when you reach that point.
When you're ready, make an appointment with a counselor at a time that you know he will be available. If he shows up, then you can start working. If he doesn't, you can move on with a clear conscience.
2006-08-19 11:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants out of the marriage but he doesn't want the guilty feelings that comes with. His trying to make you do all the dirty work so he can tell everyone your the one that wanted the divorce and he was trying to make it work. It's a no winner on this one so do what you have to and move on without him. His not worth staying with just to try and make him be the one to get the divorce.
2006-08-19 12:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go out for a drive.
Dont' use words with him for a fight. Thats just wood for the fire.
Men dont' like to talk much. They are doers. Talk to him by walking out.
He will get the point and sit down to talk after a couple of walk outs.
Cuz when you leave, the competition of argument is gone and he is left feeling lonely and will have time to concentrate and realize, Dang, man, I need to talk to my wife.
2006-08-19 12:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru this recently. they pick fights because they are unhappty at home and usually want out but dont have the courage to say it. sooo...they keep doing things to push you away till you have had enough... its a mind game for them. if he wont seek counseling with you, then you need to move on because being hurt emotionally is worse then physical. dont wait till he takes away your confidence. wishing you the best..
2006-08-19 11:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to get along with him when he is like that. You deserve better.
2006-08-19 11:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleep in another room
2006-08-19 14:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Terri L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋