I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS MAN FOR SIX YEARS AND ALL HE EVER DOES IS THINK ABOUT HIMSELF WHEN IT COMES TO THINGS THAT WILL AFFECT OUR FAMILY EXAMPLE: MY CAR BROKE DOWN THREE MONTHS AGO, HE WAS NOT WORKING HE WAS WATCHING OUR DAUGHTER, AND MANNING OUR FORT(LOL) ANYWAY HE WAS TAKING ME TO WORK, BECAUSE HE DOESNT WANT ME OR ANYONE DRIVING HIS CAR!, WELL LAST WEKKS HE SAYS I GOT A JOB I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU STRUGGLING WITH BILLS......I THINK HOW WILL I GET TO WORK IF OUR SCHEDULES DO NOT COLIDE? WELL THIS ASSHOLE COMES HOME THE SECOND DAY ON THE JOB WITH A BRAND NEW 07 TAHOE! GET THIS HE TRADED IN HIS OTHER CAR! AND HE NOW HAS PAYMENTS OF 800 DOLLARS A MONTH AND I STILL HAVE NO WAY OF ME AND OUR DAUGHTER GETTING AROUND WHILE HE IS AT WORK OR DOESNT FEEL LIKE PLAY CAB DRIVER! SHOULD I LEAVE THE SELFISH BASTARD?
2006-08-19 11:36:07 · 19 answers · asked by YAYASMAMA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think that you need to think about the well fare of your daughter and obviously he is not
he either needs to find a job that clashes with your or he needs to help you find a new car or fix the old one
plus he definite need to sell the new one he has now for a more reasonable one
you need to give him the ultimatums
then if he does not oblige with them you either kick him out or leave at once
no turning back because he is certainly not thinking of you and your child
2006-08-20 13:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're mind is already made up, but you may want some reassurance.
First of all how are you going to leave him if you have no money?
I think you should sit down and write out a plan on getting away from your controling husband. His male ego may get hurt, but sounds better for you and your daughter.
Remember, you don't want your daughter watching you be a door mat because she too, will grow up to marry a loser.
2006-08-19 19:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow how did you even put up with him for this long?He sounds like a selfish jerk and you should have left a long time ago.The money he is paying for his car could have been used for a car for you so that HIS WIFE AND DAUGHTER could get around.What if your daughter needs to get somewhere,you have to wait till he feels like it? Yes leave him and then that 800 dollars can go to you forchild support.
2006-08-19 18:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by kitty kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? Where does he get off? Why don't you take the brand new car and tell him to fix the other car if he wants to get around. That is inhumane you have a child. What an asshole
2006-08-19 18:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow. he has long term plan but very bad money management skills. yes you should if this is the thing that bothers you. i know someone like that and he can never save a dime. funny thing was his mother gave him the excuse that he has been like that "since he joined the reserve and deployed". what a brainless. start giving him the chance to see if he will change. talk to him about some long term plans and see if he can commit to savings. otherwise, i would leave the man.
2006-08-19 18:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes... leave him. Before you are more deformed... to have accepted him in the first place, is not a good signof your picking mates!
your experience is enough for you to live with anyone else.
set your goals in a relationship...not love... working together
wtih common goals and pleasures,,,,
plenty of guys like that around. Hve fun FIND HIM =YOU WILL.
2006-08-19 18:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by herbywalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-08-19 18:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First run him over with the Tahoe, like twice. And then leave, because you and your daughter don't deserve that kind of treatment.
2006-08-19 18:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does seem selfish. he should have been trying to help you out first. it probably would have only been 2 of his new car payments to get your car going .. if he cared enough about you , he would have put you and your child first ..just like i am sure you are doing for him. i would say let him go...open the door to someone who will care for you and your child.. cut your losses.
2006-08-19 18:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl...unfortunately, you know the answer...you have to think of your own and your daughter's wellbeing...
What would you tell you daughter, if she told you this exact same story???
Good luck...
2006-08-19 19:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by trivia buff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋