Should i stick it out with my husband?

Question

No kids yet & we're newlyweds. He has a gambling problem i thought he quit a loong time ago. But he didnt. Should i stick it out with him?

Answer 1

honey, get professional help, don't ask us here

Answer 2

Oh heavens you really can't be serious? You guys are only newlyweds and you want to run already? Get the man into some gambling rehab or couselling with a therapist to take care of the gambling. Now for the kids issue, do you really feel the need to be staying up all night and changing diapers and giving up your career so early on in your marriage? Better yet don't you want to have any alone time with your hubby? Not to be crude or rude here but I think he should be asking should he stick it out with you.

Answer 3

What do you look for in a life partner? Most people would say trust is a very important factor.

If your husband cares for you and about your marriage, and is willing to change and go to counseling, then there's hope. Otherwise, if he doesn't see it as a problem and refuse to change, there's nothing that you can do to improve your marriage.

Talk to him and figure it out soon. Call the Problem Gambling Help Line: 1-800-306-6789.

Answer 4

Work with him and tell him you want to stay together.Then tell him how you understand how hard it is to quit. It will only ruin your marriage if he doesn't get help. Give him an ultimatum of get help and stick to it or it is over. No more lies or sneaking. It is not only the marriages future but your future he is messing with emotionally and financially.Tough love is the best way to deal. If he has family ask for their support. In the meantime get your bank accts. changed. You need yours alone. Also start a savings so you will be prepared to leave if it comes to that.Don't keep much cash in your purse either. Be smart about this. The heart will get you into trouble but your mind can think! Best wishes!

Answer 5

It's easy for us to tell you what you should do. , and easier said then done. But you need to ask yourself some very serious questions. You knew he had a gambling problem before you married him. Gambling is like any addiction, it's gonna take a lot of blood, sweat and tears out of you. Your going to need some counseling now and after you end this relationship. Take care, and I'm sorry for both of you.

Answer 6

How long have you been with your husband ?If you think that it is possible for him to get some help and you are commited to staying with him,then maybe you could suggest counseling for his gambling problem. T here are a lot of different support groups out there for people with the same problem as well that may help him and you.

Answer 7

Walk out the door and don't look back because you are 1 blink away of losing everything you ever had. Gambling problem is bad stuff. Get out now while you still have a shirt on your back.

Answer 8

Very Sad! Think you need to find a gambling councelor and try figure out if he is willing to change. Remember how this could effect your life in the future and remember your childrens lives.

Answer 9

From your other posts, I would say no. You have nothing in common, your communication is lacking, so what is there to stay for? He has a gambling problem which is bound to cause fights and keep you from getting a house and things you need.

Answer 10

Nope. Time to leave. He told you that the gambling was long ago and over and done with. He lied to you.

Now he is using up your resources and his, putting you in debt. Soon you'll have nothing.

Let someone else try to save him. Meanwhile you have your own life to live, and it isn't up to you to cure the guy who lied to you about such an important issue.

Answer 11

You made a vow to stick with ur husband no matter what. If he has a problem with something then u need to try and help him through it instead of running from it. Seeing how much u care will help to strengthen ur relationship.