Formula feeders?

Question

I know you have been bashed repeatedly but I want to know why formula feeding is better than breastfeeding in your opinion. I have been a huge beyotch to formula feeders so I want to understand why formula is ok and why you shouldn't be judged. If I can get a good educated reason why you formula fed (a reason that I can't find a solution for) and unless you have no breasts, please enlighten me since I feel every mother can breastfeed. I want to understand why a mother wouldn't want to give her baby the best..i just don't get it. Educate me please.

Another reason is adoptive parents although I know breastfeeding is still possible

Still waiting for someone to give me a legitimate, non selfish reason to feed formula..i've read the comments and they all sound selfish and just terrible to me.

To the army wife who has no shame going to the wic office to beg for formula..damn girl how do you do it? Do you at least feel just a bit of shame when you go in there and beg for the stuff? I just have to laugh at the low class people like her that have no shame and love to beg people to feed her own child..i wonder if she has welfare and food stamps too.

browneyes: Yeah she's low class..i'm not jealous at all because I make enough money by having a job and having a husband that has a job that I don't have to go to any agency and beg for anyone to feed my child. It's my child and I should be the one feeding it, not the government. Of course you would go in her defense because you probably have no class either, having to go beg for formula right? LOL..damn I don't know where people's dignities are. Hey if you like to beg more power to you..i'm not the begging type..i feed my baby myself because I made him myself, he's not the government's problem..so sick and low class that you guys are.

And for the record, I had mastitis 3x since my baby was born..i didn't include it in my original post because it's very common for breastfeeding moms..i still breastfed and you're a lowsy mom for not breastfeeding..low class mommies think alike..try another excuse trailer trash mama

sassy: I work full time so why would I bash them? And what does homeschooling have to do with the subject? Get a clue sweetie

mamatohaley: You rock girl!!! LOL

And for the other formula feeders..there is no way in hell that a mother does not produce milk..you either didn't care or didn't try hard enough..you could've made enough milk..did you read my post? My baby was not gaining weight and do you know what I did? No i didn't run to wic to beg for formula, I did what a real mother should do and go help to get my baby on the right track.

Show me a link or anything that says not everyone can make enough milk..that is bullsh*t..milk just doesn't miraculously appear after a baby, you have to make it and you have to work hard to make it. Don't hate me because you didn't care about your baby enough to try.

Oh please can some formula feeder give me a good reason why I shouldn't think of you as pieces of crap, wic begging, lazy azz loser..please!!! If not, I will continue to bash you just like your children should be doing..poor things have to deal with lazy, uneducated mothers.

HotinAZ: I do have a daughter and she knows that if she loves her children she will breastfeed them. Your children know what you teach them..I hope if you have a daughter you will tell her that you were one of the stupid idiots that tried very hard (not succeeding of course) to put down a real mother that fed her baby the best..what will be your reason to do that? Good thing i don't have to give my children any explanations for breastfeeding..if i were a formula feeder, and the way things are going now, I will have a heck of a time explaining to my children why I was a lazy, uneducated loser who didn't care about my children.

Good thing i don't have to defend myself.

Still waiting for a "smart" formula feeder to tell me something good about formula.
I really didn't expect any reasonable resposes from the formula feeders..they have nothing to say..poor things, can't say I didn't try to understand why they gave their babies nasty crap, I haven't read any intelligent answers yet

Well after reading all the responses I have come to the conclusion that there is no reason, unless you don't want to, to formula feed your child. I saw one response that kind of explained it but it was from a breastfeeding mother. The formula feeders have nothing but lame excuses and no facts to back them up. Can't say I didn't try to understand..i'll continue on with the bashing..have a good one!!!

Answer 1

I formula feed my baby but I really wish I would have breastfed. Everything happened so fast and I think my family's influence had a lot to do with me not breastfeeding. Also, I was a single mother at the time and had to live with my parents in their small house. But for me, there's no excuse that can take away the regret I have from choosing not to breastfeed my daughter. I still have a very close bond with her. I plan to breastfeed my next child.

Answer 2

Oh my such drama...you are a bitter person. You must have a low self esteem to come on here and down grade people when you have no backbone to even have a valid reason to do so.

It does not matter if you choose to breastfeed and it should not matter to you if there are people who choose to formula feed...that is none of your damn concern.

Everything you have stated about formula feeders are not FACTS just your personal opinion which is going to get your behind into some deep trouble one day, someone is gonna put their foot up your behind which you need. I am sure if you behave this way online, I would really hate to see how you are offline.

Those on WIC are not needy people...that is a resource for pregnant women, breastfeeding women, infants and children under the age of 5. These people are not are beggers for food as you so call put it, they are just using a resource that is available to them that their tax dollars are paying for.

Knowing you, you probably bash those who have children in school who get FREE or reduced meals.

No one here has to answer to your sorry butt. You do not need facts of why people use formula just know that they do because it is their choice not yours. You are not using it so therefore drop the whole issue and find something else to do with your time. Like go breastfeed your child.

The reason why you are doing this is because the only thing protecting your face from getting punched by these women is that lousy monitor you are sitting in front of. You would not dare do this mess offline because you know what you are doing is grounds to get your butt stomped.

Grow up and get over yourself and leave these formula feeders the hell alone. This is a form of harassment and you are getting your thrill from it.

When you can come up with some FACTS of why you should down grade these people then talk all you want...in the mean time SHUT UP ALREADY!

You sorry pathetic fool!

Answer 3

Breastfeeding is the best thing I ever did/do for my daughter. To each their own but it makes me sad to think that not every child will get the chance to bond with a mother that way and be fed a food that is formulated just for them.

Do you know that a mothers body can sense the anti-bodies that a child needs and will actually produce it as the baby nurses. It is just so miraculous.

Did you know that formula is made of whey protein. That is the left over milk product after all the good stuff is made (i.e milk, cheese, etc.)

Mama of 2 has a good point about working. That too is a choice that has serious impact on the child.

I guess in the long run everyone will do it their own way and who am I to say which way is better than the other. I personally breastfeed and feel that is the best choice for a child, but that is just me and my own opinion.

Answer 4

Hey ladies or whoever i just wanted to say that u ladies are very immature! Also, I have two boys both which were formula feed Because i was on medication that i could not bf with and you know some women cant for the simple reason due to health issues! Also i am not on WIC but i think if a mother uses WIC that doesn't make her lame or low class and doesn't mean she doesn't love her kid i mean after all she is getting so way to provide for her child i mean would u rather someone not find a way to provide for her kid or get help ugh well duh! anyways i think u ladies really need to get a life and to grow up especially if u have nothing better to do than harass people and if you ask me u would be the low class since you are here on yahoo judging people!!

Answer 5

Here's my problem with what BabyRN said -

Private school, organic foods, trips around the world, the choice to stay at home or work, etc. all involved MONEY.....either they cost money or they bring money into the home. We all WANT to give our kids the best we possibly can. People may not be able to provide these things that are considered "the best" for their kids because they don't have the money and can't afford it. That's understandable. We all often have to settle for lesser because the best is financially out of reach.

HOWEVER.....
Breastfeeding is not only the BEST nutrition, it is FREE! I don't understand how people *CHOOSE* to give an inferior, dead substance with no immunities in it over a perfect, living and changing substance packed with immunities which is FREE.

ARMYWIFE -
Breastfeeders get judged PLENTY. In real life and here on Y!A as well. Have you seen all the negative comments that have been made about women who "breastfeed too long" according to some or women who breastfeed in public?

timberleigh -
When was your father born? I am willing to bet that if you go back and look at how doctor's recommended that mothers breastfeed their babies at the time that she was set up for failure by the system. If she had the information that breastfeeding mothers have today, she probably could have nursed successfully. I can almost assure you that there was nothing wrong with her milk. I've seen the hospital literature from 1960 that my MIL was given. They were only allowed to have their babies to nurse every 4 hours! The rest of the time the baby was in the nursery. HELLO! Breastmilk digests in 90 minutes and babies NEED to nurse about every 2 hours around the clock.

Answer 6

I'm not quite sure why you bash formula feeders? We are all mothers and should support one another. I have breastfed all 3 of my children. I did have to supplement with my second because I found out I was pregnant with my third when my second was 6 months old. Because of the pregnancy hormones I lost my milk. It didn't totally disappear but it was not enough for my son anymore so I had to give him formula. He stopped wanting to breastfed when he was 10 months either because my milk changed taste or consistency or because he just was done breastfeeding. At any rate I am thankful that there was something out there that I could give my baby when I had to.

Answer 7

In some cases a child can be born premature and can not easily hold down the mother's milk or formula for the first couple days of life to that of the first couple of weeks. In which the food has to be given via intravenously.

What people choose to do with their life and also on how to feed their own childern is their concern and not yours.

Also take into consideration that certain drugs and diseases are transmitted through the mother's milk making it very dangerous for the baby. If you're so keen on judging and complaining about going off on people for what they choose, you seriously need to do more research on the circular reasoning you're using with why breast feeding is better than formula feeding.

Answer 8

I bottlefed both my kids... now I have many regrets of not breastfeeding... if I have anymore I will def. breastfeed... I give a Kudos to all you breastfeeding mothers for doing so and the ones who at least tried. I was 20 when I had my first and now 8 years later wished I could turn back time and have that bond with my children and maybe my body would have healed better and my youngest would not have health problems.

Please understand that some women simply cannot breastfeed due to their milk never coming in or like my own mother had.. fiber filled milk glands and my sister was getting blood instead of milk... I do agree that ALL women should at least try... but it also depends on society and ppl looking down on breastfeeding in public.

Good for you for being a breastfeeding mom and good for you to be involving yourself in helping other mothers out there the benfits.. but do not judge them for not, would you like them to judge you because you nurse in public ?

Answer 9

I ADDED AN EDIT. IF YOU CAN'T RESPOND TO MY REASONS, THEN YOU ARE SHOWING YOU DON'T REALLY WANT A REASON, YOU JUST WANT TO BASH.

I cannot breastfeed. You said every mother can breastfeed but that is not true. I have health conditions that require me to take medications that would be very very detrimental to a baby's health. I don't usually tell people that because I really don't think it's anyones business. No one is a perfect parent. If you breastfeed, maybe you are giving them the perfect food but I bet I could find ways you are not perfect. I think you should just assume that people love their kids and are doing what is best for the whole family. I just don't understand why you care about this so much. There are children who are actually being abused and instead of raising hell about that, you are persecuting mothers who are doing the best they can even if you find it substandard. It is my opinion that when you bash about something like this it is only to make yourself feel better because you feel substandard in some way. This will not help you feel better. Get off your high horse and figure out why you have to attack innocent people.

EDIT PLEASE READ THIS: I see you arguing against everyone else's reasons but I haven't heard you argue mine yet. I think you are a disgusting person by the way. I feel sorry for your daughter. You may be giving her the best food, but you are also teaching her a horrible, judgmental attitude. When she has children, she will breastfeed out of guilt, not because she feels it's the best thing to do. And by the way, another medical reason: some baby's are born tongue tied and unless they have corrective surgery they cannot physically latch on. It is impossible for them to do so. These babies need to bottle feed.

I wish no one would answer your questions because the truth is, you have no right to hear the answer. IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN MY BREASTS, YOU DON'T GET TO DISCUSS THEM WITH ME.

Answer 10

I believe "breast is best" and tried in vain to breastfeed, to no avail. I wasn't able to do it because no matter what I tried, I couldn't make enough milk to satisfy my boys. (I tried with both of them for about a month after their respective births.) Formula feeding is better in my case because if I hadn't formula fed, they would have died of starvation.

If you're asking the opinion of people who could, but chose not to, I'd say the only reason it would be better to formula feed would be because the formula is consistent and you would KNOW your baby was getting enough and not taking in harmful things. (i.e. a mother who doesn't nurse properly, so her baby fails to thrive, or someone who smokes/drinks/eats unhealthy foods and the breastmilk isn't as healthy as it could be.)