What do you think of Arranged Marriages?? Do they work?

Answer 1

I think you need to be in love to make a marriage work , and you can't arrange love . My answer would be I don't think they are right and no they don't work .

Answer 2

I support arranged marriages, and yes, they work. The divorce rate of arranged marriages is lower than so called love marriages, because usually, those with arranged marriages DO respect their vows more than those in love marriages. Those in arranged marriages don't date before marriage, so they have less emotional baggage as well.

Arranged marriage does not mean forced marriage. In India, and the ME, some women are forced to marry, this is not acceptable. However, in an arranged marriage, the family usally meets, and the bride and groom see eachother and accept. It's the parents who have the experience in marriage in life, so their advice is high praised.

I am in an arranged-love marriage. I talked to my husband on the phone, and then we met. My parents met him, approved, and told me to marry him. I could have said no, but I liked him.
It's 7 months into my marriage now, and he is possibly the most wonderful man I know. I don't think I could have ended up with a better man. I'm lucky I found him, and I'm lucky my parents approved.

Answer 3

Arranged marriages have been a topic of interest for centuries. Authors across the ages have explored this theme at length, and it still surfaces in literary works today. What's the appeal? Is it the fascination with the lack of lust and desire we cultivate in North American society? We strive on the element of danger, of the forbidden, while an arranged marriage is usually a safe way to ensure a family's approval of a union.

And yet, many of today's romance novels deal with marriages of convenience. We’ve all read them: the heroine marries the hero because she needs him, whether for financial reasons, or because her children need a father -- there are as many reasons to marry as there are novels dealing with this subject. Yet although the marriage isn’t initially based on love, there’s always that sensual tension simmering beneath the surface, and as readers, we know it’s inevitable that the two are going to fall deeply and irrevocably in love.

But what about real life, where things don’t always work out so well? Arranged marriages are commonplace in a number of countries, such as Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan, Japan and India. They’re more common than you’d think even in North America, where cultural diversity is cherished and encouraged.

Young people in countries where arranged marriages are commonplace are told from an early age that their spouse will be chosen for them. To deny an arranged marriage is seen as a sign of disrespect toward the family. But how are suitable spouses chosen? In Japan, for instance, "when a woman reaches the marriageable age of 25, she and her parents compile a packet of information about her, including a photograph of her in a kimono and descriptions of her family background, education, hobbies, accomplishments and interests. Her parents then inquire among their friends and acquaintances to see if anyone knows a man who would be a suitable husband for her" (the Asia Society's Video Letter from Japan: My Family, 1988). Usually, the most important aspect of choosing a suitable spouse is the bond between the two families, rather than the relationship between the couple being married. Property or land with the aim of securing social status sometimes seals marriage agreements.

Do arranged marriages work? Opinions tend to differ. Statistics place the divorce rate for arranged marriages much lower than those in the United States, where marriages out of love are the rule. However, research also shows that the pressure a married couple encounters from both society as a whole, and from the respective families, suggests that divorce is often not an option.

Can love grow out of an arranged marriage? Absolutely, and in the same way that love can grow in romance novels from a marriage of convenience. But there’s more to love than finding a suitable match. Love can grow for many reasons, from lust at first sight to friendship that develops over a long period of time. It’s impossible to predict whether a union will be successful. The only two people who can make it work are the bride and groom, the hero and heroine of their own story.

Answer 4

Statistics show that divorce rates for arranged marriages are much lower than those in the United States. However, research also shows that the pressure a married couple encounters from both society as a whole, and from the respective families, suggests that divorce is often not an option.

Answer 5

I think they work just as much as the other kind. Y'know, there is this misconcept in the world of "falling in love" and then getting married. But the truth is that "falling in love" is really infatuation, and real love is something that is built up during a long time through hard work by the couple. Unfortunately people think that relationships are easy - all flowery and bright, but they fail to see that it take a lot of hard work and devotion, and by the time they relize that it's too late. I know so many people who first got married and then fell in love, and they are so happy together!!!!
Of course there has to be "chemistry" between the couple, they have to have some kind of interest in each other, but the love builds up, believe me.

Answer 6

I think they can really work, and I do not come from a culture that has arranged marriages. However, with the dysfunctional relationship I had with my parents, I can't imagine who they would have picked for me!!!

Peace.

Answer 7

how could they work? i could never imagine what it would be like to marry someone you dont know or dont like...it would be so bad if you were already in love and then have to marry a stranger.
i'm glad that i was never born into a culture that arranges marriage.

Answer 8

Well, it would work as well as if you randomly married someone on the street in a game of chance. Roll of the die, could work, maybe not.

Answer 9

Nope....I think you need to be in love for a marriage for it work.

Answer 10

I don't see how they could work.