Okay this is a stupid question: Now what?? We dont know how to communicate or what to do. On the weekends i go out with my friends and he does with his. We have different work scheduals during the week, so all we do is watch movies & cuddle when we get home (and other things...).I guess its time for us to grow up. We share no common interests. How do you be a normal married couple? What do we do? I know, its stupid but i have no clue! as u can see, look at my questions real quick. Am I thinking right?
2006-08-19 11:09:57 · 31 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did we get married? Cause we love each other and are VERY attracted to each other.
2006-08-19 11:17:43 · update #1
Iou: That was awesome advice!!!!!
2006-08-19 11:20:36 · update #2
most men and women do not share common interest except for going to movies, watching television (sometimes), socializing with other couples, eating together, and having sex. couples sometimes complicates things by complaining about this. the one thing you wrote i found disturbing is on the weekends you go separate ways. that is not good!!!!! talk to him and do things together. if you don't somebody might mess up and do something regrettable if you know what i mean!
do things together, chill, and hang out or you want be married very long.
good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-19 11:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by lou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had better work on that communicating! I've been married for 10 months now and find myself in a similiar situation, and it is not going so well. I suggest you build off of the things you do have in common... watching movies and sex LOL. Why don't you all try new things together when you do have time to spend with each other. Good Luck.
2006-08-19 12:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will really help to find some common interests; doesn't have to be a lot of stuff - just some things you both enjoy doing together. It may be something one of you already does - or, it could be a totally new and different thing you discover together. When you're single, you tend to hang out with single people; but, IMO, once you're a couple, it helps to find friends who are couples.
Some things my fiancé and I have done/are planning to do together: dinners out, friends over for dinner, movies, BBQ, hiking, walking, dance and aerobics classes, swimming, fencing, renaissance faires, medieval re-enactment (SCA), online videogames. Perhaps you can think about getting a pet you both want - be it a dog or a cat, or something completely different like a bird or a fishtank. Plan a short road trip. Read a book you might both like.
2006-08-19 11:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you've been doing all this time to make you want to get married in the first place. All relationships are different. There is no one formula that will work for every couple. If going out with our friends and then coming home watching movies is what makes you guys happy, then that is the answer. The relationship will evolve, you will grow up together, and responsibilities will creep in. The best advice I can give you is to continue to enjoy EACHOTHER for as long as you can, and don't have any babies until your relationship is solid and your foundation is unshakable.
2006-08-19 11:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are no stupid questions!
But, having been married for 22 years, I can tell you that marriage is hard; it's something you have to keep working on; always.
Try to find a hobby that you both enjoy. Find time to have fun together with this hobby at least once a week.
All marriages can work if both keep talking, stay committed, respect each other's individuality and continue to enjoy each other's company.
Good luck. If he's a good man and good to you, stay married.
Blue
2006-08-19 11:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by bmyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you used to do before you got married? If you have no common interests, what was the attraction? You need to figure out what brought you together in the first place. Communication is KEY in any successful relationship. I have been happily married for 10 years. You need to spend quality time together and figure out things to do together. Good Luck!
2006-08-19 11:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its not an abnormal question. Marriage takes alot of work and dedication not to mention sacraficies. You need to come to a time when its "your time" together!! Marriage doesn;t just get good overnight its hard work! You need to make time and he does too...You make time for each other. my boyfriend is in arizona and i see him 6 days out of the month and then he goes back to arizona i don';t see him as often as i would like too and i miss him dearly! but i make the best of it when he is home and i cry when he leaves me...so just start going walking together or go to social gatherings,,,or maybe a doulbe date with another married couple! good luck
2006-08-19 11:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Britster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why emotionally immature people shound NOT, I repeat NOT get married.This marriage can get work, if the both of you are truely in love with each other, and are willing to make the commitment to learn as you grow as husband and wife.It will not be easy, plenty of mistakes and hardships are ahead. The real question is, just how committed are you two to each other?
2006-08-19 11:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With that description , you should wait for a Divorce and sooner than later, You have to look for something to do in common and really fast , Marriage is not only sex , is alot more than that , look for friends that are married , singles friends are bad advice , act fast you dont have to much time , im serious
2006-08-19 11:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by emtgve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not a stupid question at all! try to find new interests,things you guys have never done before as a couple,try bowling or going out to eat one night a week to a new restaurant in your area,look for other couples to dine with too. take dancing together! maybe a cooking class for couples there are things to do you just have to go look and be willing and open to new things
2006-08-19 11:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋