I go to a really small school and i dont really fit in..i would really like to make some friends...but how? Nobody likes me..and all the girls in my class are mean....?
2006-08-19 10:20:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Are they really mean otherwise, or are they just shutting you out of their circle? You say you do not fit in, but you do not say why. Perhaps it is because you are smarter, or a more dedicated student, or even more attractive. In other words, their hostility could easily be fueled by envy. Of course, it is not good manners to point this out to people, but it may help you to raise above their style.
How do you make friends, and are you sure you want to? Well, are there other girls that live on the fringe of the popular crowd, with whom you could make friends under a Common Cause? If you are being shunned by the princesses, and so are some other girls, then that is where you should look for friendship.
One other point: do not push the river. It knows when is the appropriate time for everything. Maybe this is your own personal development time, where you get serious about improving your life because the distractions of hanging out with the popular crowd are absent. Such friends do take up a lot of time, after all. That is part of the reason for the existence of cliques.
2006-08-19 10:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm going to a new school AGAIN (my 10th one) and i'm nervous about making friends. But the best advice anyone has ever given me is be yourself. Don't over-do it to try and make friends, and don't feel that you need to impress anyone. Just be you. That's what I did last year, coming to my 9th school, and I made TONS of friends!!! It may sound simply, but it really does work.
As for the girl, they'll get over it. Girls are just mean at first to 'protect their teritory'. Just be friendly to them and they won't be able to resist liking you!! :)
2006-08-19 10:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Princess J9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah the best option is to be yourself ! Because there were probably be people who like you ^_^ And those who don't have a closed mind and its their loss for not giving you a chance so just be cool and treat others with respect and you'll be shown the same through friendship !
2006-08-19 10:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by iJomer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get involved in some school clubs and extra curricular activities, you will undoubtedly meet some people with common interests and make some friends.
2006-08-19 10:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by little mama kat 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could pray to God (in Jesus' Name) and ask Him to help you. I have found that when I like someone they automatically like me. Look at yourself too - you may be looking at them in a negative way and criticising them in your thoughts. If there is one girl who pleases you in some way and seems to respond kindly (even in a small way) you could build on that relationship by smiling, making sure you are pleasant to be with, giving and encouraging, being your real self. I am praying for you and you WILL see a change. God bless Nicole, Marcelle (Sydney).
2006-08-19 10:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Marceau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always felt like that too... I usually had friends outside of my school because there was alot of mean girls at mine too...so I hung out with kids on my street or friends through my family.... so don't worry, someone nice will come along , and heck with those mean girls, you don't need them anyway...... Smile, your never fully dressed without one !!!
2006-08-19 10:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself. if they don't like you for who you are, you don't need friends like them. you shouldn't have to change who you are to fit in.
you should find friends in a different class or maybe consider being home schooled if the problem get worse.
hope i helped :)
2006-08-19 10:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most cases, when girls are mean towards other girls its because they are jealous of something. It just takes a little time that's all. just remember to always be yourself, cause that's how you get the real friends. If your try to be someone else, you get fake friends because your being fake.
2006-08-19 10:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Christian B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, Be yourself, and if you're a half way decent person, Friends will come out of the woodwork, just don't try too hard
2006-08-19 10:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be polite and nice to people ,and above all be yourself
you cannot force people to like you.
but if you do as i said ,the time will come when somebody will appreciate you for who you are. and become friendly with you ,and if they don't ,you don't need them anyway
better one genuine friend ,than 20 false ones
2006-08-19 10:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋